#MeToo movement made many women come forward to share their sexual harassment and abuse stories.
It is disturbing but yet so relieving as many women displayed an immense courage to come forward, irrespective of the fear of judgments. But, we must say, some names that came up definitely shocked us.
One such name that came out in #MeToo movement is “Alok Nath”, famously known as Sanskaari Babuji.
It all started when Vinta Nanda accused actor Alok Nath of sexually assaulting her when she was the producer of popular 1990s show Tara (on Zee TV channel), which had the actor in lead role. Alok Nath reacted on the accusation, saying he “neither denies nor agrees” with Vinta Nanda’s allegations and that “only what a woman says will be considered”.
But, all of us were shaken today, when Television and film actor Sandhya Mridul came out in support of Vinita’s rape allegations against actor Alok Nath and shared her own horrifying story.
Sandhya took to Twitter to share details of how Alok attacked her while they were shooting together for a show.
Her note stated:
At the very start of my career, I was shooting a telefilm in Kodaikanal. I was the lead. And very excited. Alok Nath was my on-screen father and Reema Lagoo my mother.
Alok Nath was very impressed with me and called me “God’s own child” and openly praised me every day. I was over the moon. I was a huge fan of this wonderful Babuji.. I felt so fortunate happy and confident.
Till one night after an early pack up. The cast went out for dinner. At dinner he got progressively drunk and started insisting I sit with him and that I belonged to him and other stuff that I don’t clearly remember but it made me very nervous and uncomfortable. My co-star realised what was happening and got me out of there.
We went back to the hotel without dinner. It was late and I was back in my room and the costume dada came to my room to give me my clothes for the next day as I had a very early call time. Few minutes after he left there was a knock on my door I opened the door thinking it was him again .. it was an inebriated Alok Nath I instinctively tried to shut the door but he pushed it and lunged at me, I stepped aside he went flying past me into the room .. I fell back toward the bathroom door he lunged at me again screaming I want you you’re mine .. I dodged again he went into the bathroom and I think I latched the loo door and ran out of my room down the corridor into the lobby. Fortunately, my DoP was there making a call from the reception ..
He came back to my room what ensued was traumatic because a belligerent Alok Nath refused to leave.. kept screaming shouting threatening abusing trying to grab me.. but at some point we managed to make him leave. The hairdresser was called and made to sleep in my room I was so shaken up.
In a few hours I had scenes with Bauji, in one I had to sit on his lap and cry. I still feel nauseous when i think of it.
It didn’t stop there .. every evening he would drink and every night calls were made to my room. I dreaded the ring.. I had to keep it off the hook most of the times. But then he would come calling. It was a catch 22 situation. I had the hairdresser moved in to my room permanently. I was a nervous wreck.
Few days later I got very sick & was laid up and couldn’t shoot. The stress had broken me. He continued to traumatise me with calls. And knocks. The hairdresser would answer. One day when he landed up at the door and cried and begged to be allowed in to sodas to me to apologise.. I couldn’t take it anymore I told her to accompany him in..he pulled a chair next to my bed and howled. Said he was an alcoholic and that he had destroyed everything his family his marriage everything’s and I was like his daughter and he respected me and that he was very sorry. He says he had learnt his lesson and that he would go to therapy and change it all..
I finally broke my silence I screamed shouted cried and it was done. I believed him. I had to.
He left. He got away. I don’t know how I shot with him for the remaining days and weeks.
I’m grateful to my co-actors , my DOP & especially the late Reema lagoo for finally taking him on & protecting me like a mother from then on.
But it was too late. The damage was done. A very disillusioned, disgraced & unsure me returned home. He went on to return to Bombay and tell people I was difficult and arrogant. All apologies forgotten. He was a popular man I was a newbie. He laid the foundation others like him built on. All those who heard ‘No’. Attitude my biggest crime. The deal breaker.
Mr. Alok Nath. You know this to be true. As do few others.
I had to forgive you for myself then and for my sanity but I will never forgive you for what you did with Vinta. Whom I have always respected and loved.
I stand by you Vinta. What I went through is nothing compared to you. I’m so sorry.
More power to you.
To us all.I’m certain there are others. I urge you to come forward.
“Your time is up Sir”.
The problem is sexual harassment has been open to interpretation.
I come from a time when nobody wanted to hear. I was a nobody. When I tried to speak I was labelled arrogant and difficult.
And replaced from work.
And there was no social media to make ourselves heard, directly.
It’s taken me years to lay those demons to rest and move on.
And just stay away from it all.
But it never actually goes away. Does it?
I do little work because I do it with people I trust. And those who respect me. My choices.
I felt I had two choices then. One, to fight for work or two to preserve my dignity.
And stay away from the conflict, the ugliness, and embarrassment to me and my family.
Which to me meant silence.
I chose the latter. At that point.
It’s way different now, they know me so I’m spared. From abuse.
And from work.
Even though I managed to escape or prevent it somehow and it never reached the point where I was assaulted physically.
My soul was. My creativity was. My career was.
But I stood my ground. As shaky as it got.
My bold bindaas badass image comes from there.
But nobody wanted to work with “such a woman.”
Yes, I was told that. On many occasions.
My career was set in stone.
What Tanushree has started is admirable.
I’m happy now women can speak go on social media. So there’s that platform.
And it’s pretty powerful. I believe.
We have a voice finally.
I have a lot more to say. But it’s been buried so long. I need to dig up what I buried.
For that, I need more courage and clarity.
I need time.
Yes, some of us need time. To dig into the shame and darkness we’ve buried to be able to work with strength and dignity.
I’m work in progress.
And where do I begin?
So much happened that I can’t remember.
And the worst part is I don’t have evidence anymore.
Except for me.
But I stand with Tanushree. And Vinta. And every woman. Who has been through this & will follow suit and break her silence.
We have a voice.
I’d like to tell all the newcomers that they should use it. Correctly. Honestly. Wisely. Fearlessly.
Don’t be ashamed.
Don’t be scared.
Don’t let it fester. And corrode your soul.
Let’s keep this fire going.
Shockingly, another crew member of Hum Saath Saath Hain shared her story under anonymity. The survivor spoke to Mid-Day about Alok Nath harassing her and said:
“We were shooting for a night scene and I had taken a change of costumes to him. Once I handed him the clothes, he started stripping in front of me. I was taken aback, and tried to make my way out of the room as soon as possible. When I tried to run out, he grabbed my hand and manhandled me. I remember yanking my hand out of his grip and rushing out of the room.”
There are many other brave women who have come forward to disclose their stories of sexual harassment and abuse. This may disgust you or may make you feel that the standard of our society is falling. But, we believe bringing these stories forward, we are rising as a society.
We applaud the women who have come forward to speak the truth and we want to tell them – we are listening to them and definitely not judging them!
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