While the whole world was celebrating the spirit of Christmas and hope, this mother lost her battle against the silent killer – Depression.
This dreadful incident that happened in Lucknow, sent chills down the spine and gave a dreading reminder of what the silent killer – depression – can do to new moms.
A new mother undergoing depression strangulated her three-month-old daughter on Tuesday (25th December) morning in her apartment in Faridinagar.
As per police, the woman Shubhra, 32, took this extreme step due to her mental condition and has been taken into custody. She has been booked for murder on the complaint of her husband Brijnandan Tiwari.
According to Tiwari’s statement,
“On Monday night, Shubhra went to sleep in another room with the baby, Advika, which as unusual. Around 6:30 am (on Tuesday), I woke up and found that Shubhra had locked the door from inside. When I knocked, she opened the door and said she had killed Advika and freed me of a financial burden.”
As Advika wasn’t responsive, the husband rushed her to a private hospital but it was too late. The hospital authorities declared her brought dead.
Shubhra has been detained and the arrangements have been made to examine her mental condition by a team of doctors.
Shubhra and Tiwari had a love marriage in 2009. During 9 years of marriage, Shubhra had 2 miscarriages which shook her. Three months ago, the couple was blessed with a girl child. However, soon after that she started behaving in a strange manner – being too worried for her daughter.
Tiwari further shared it with TOI:
“Though I earned enough as an engineer in a private company in Gujarat, she considered it to be insufficient for Advika’s future. I even had savings from my earlier job in Dubai… The anxiety led to acute depression, I left my job last month to come to Lucknow to take care of her and Advika”
However, Shubra had a different viewpoint on the financial condition of the family.
She told TOI that their financial condition was poor and that the family was dependent on her mother-in-law’s pension. She wanted good schooling for her daughter and that was not possible with the limited family income.
Shubra holds an MSc degree in anthropology and tried to apply for a job but couldn’t. She believed she was left with no other option but to take the life of her 3-months-old daughter.
As we publish Shubra’s story, I For Her team wonders how many more stories society needs to hear to take PPD – Postpartum Depression seriously.
There is very little awareness about what PPD could do to a new mother.
It causes new mothers to feel anger, frustration and great sadness, which they express either through an inability to care for the child or even sometimes, violence towards the child.
While PPD is mainly triggered by a hormonal imbalance in the body after childbirth, but it can also be triggered by painful or complicated pregnancies, stress, tension with the husband or in-laws, financial difficulties and other health issues.
Lack of awareness makes it difficult for women and their families to notice it.