It is heartbreaking how even in the 21st century, our educated and independent woman sees herself as a failure if her marriage doesn’t work. It is disappointing how we are raised to attach our self-worth to our marital status. No wonder because of this social norm, many women tend to label themselves as a failure if their marriage doesn’t work out; no matter how much educated or financially independent they are!
Recently, one such incident in Andhra Pradesh made us face this ugly reality.
33-year-old dermatologist, Donthamsetti Lavanya, and her 7-year-old son slipped into a coma and later died in Andhra Pradesh’s Rajahmundry. They slipped into a coma after Lavanya gave an overdose of sleeping pills to him and also consumed the same.
As per the reports, Lavanya was married to another doctor of Telangana. Recently, the couple developed disputes, and Lavanya left the house with her kid. She started living with her doctor father D. Buddha in Rajahmundry.
According to the police sources, the husband allegedly sent her the divorce notice, which may have triggered her to kill herself and her son. Currently, the police have registered a case and the police are probing the deaths.
While the investigation is still on, it is heartbreaking how we women are raised to get married. And, that’s the reason why many of us tend to judge ourselves by the status of our marriage. Being scared of being shamed by society, many women chose to suffer in silence in an abusive marriage. Many of them slip into depression when their marriage doesn’t turn out the way they hoped for.
At IFORHER, we are heartbroken by Lavanya’s death. We believe it is high time that we start telling our daughters that a divorced daughter is better than a dead daughter. We hope women also stop attaching their self worth with the marriage and try to celebrate themselves as a more holistic person.
Dear Women, Failure in marriage doesn’t define you; Your Courage does!