My mother tried her level best to give me a life much better than she ever had. Despite being married into a very conservative family – she made sure that I get all the opportunities to lead an independent life.
I was born into a family where everyone started preparing for my marriage from the day I was born. Though my mother’s end goal for my life was to get me married, she still made sure that I became independent before even having a thought about marriage.
She did a lot for me but there were certain things we completely disagreed on. And I promised myself when I’ll have a daughter, I’ll do certain things a little differently than my mother.
Here are 6 things that I would do differently from my mom while raising my daughter:
#1: Choose Her Toys, Colors & Vehicle Based On Choice Not On Gender
I’ll not tell her that she can’t play with cars like her brothers and has to play with her dolls. Or, she can’t ride a bike like her brother. Or, her favorite color has to be Pink.
#2: I’ll Teach Her To Demand More Than “Just Marriage” From Life
I won’t push her to find her prince charming. I won’t tell her that her life will be incomplete without kids. Rather, I’ll ask my daughter to learn to manage both career and kitchen equally.
#3: I’ll Not Teach Her My Mom-Style Sanskaar
I will teach her to respect herself before respecting anyone else. I’ll teach her to stand up for her rights “kyunki kuch toh log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna.”
#4: I Won’t Put Her Through The Society’s Unjust Idea of Beauty Tell Her She Is Not Fair Or She Is Not Beautiful Or She is Dark
I won’t body-shame her just because the aunts or uncles think she is not beautiful. I’ll not burden her with the color of her skin – fair or dark. I’ll make sure she is confident the way she is.
#5: I’ll Not Treat Her Like Untouchable When She Will Be On Her Menstruation Cycle
She will not only be allowed to touch pickles but also eat them. She doesn’t have to stop herself from visiting temples if she wants to.
#6: I’ll Not Stop Her From Wearing Her Favourite Dresses Or Going Out Late In Night
Instead of telling her that she shouldn’t wear short skirts or go out late in the night, I’ll train her in basic self-defense so that she can protect herself.
I am sure there are many more things that could be included in this list. But with these 6, I want to make sure my daughter is raised as a confident, bright and intelligent young woman.
In the comment box below, do let me know what would you do differently. I will include it in the list with your name next to it, and together let’s make sure we raise our daughters to be the winners of tomorrow.
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