This was my mom’s favorite dialogue since my childhood. Doesn’t matter if it was about seeking permission for a party or not showing excitement about getting home cooked food; my sister and I couldn’t escape her favorite dialogue.
But you know what? She was right. (Again)
Something magical happened when I held my first born. I finally understood.
In the past few years, I have understood its not our mom’s lack the appreciation of rationality or logic, but they do certain things out of pure love. And, with time I realized that there are certain things that only your mom would do for you; no one else – neither your husband nor your friends.
With a stressful career, I was never sure whether having a kid was a good decision. But, with time, I have realized, that my mother made sure it turns out good for me. She does these things to make my life easy and wonderful.
#1: She volunteers to watch my kid so that I can go on my business travels without feeling guilty.
She wants to make sure that my career doesn’t suffer, so she makes herself available whenever I have to travel for a sales pitch or project delivery!
Unlike my in-laws or my husband, she never made me feel that she was doing a favour to me!
#2: She can’t stop herself from keeping my house organized in the best way possible
Many moms who are working will relate to me when I say that I hardly find time to keep my home tidy. No matter how much I love it to be organized, I always fall short of time and energy to make it happen.
But, my mom knows my love for the organized house. So, whenever she is here, every single Lego, Ghostbuster toys and board games are kept back neatly in the cupboard. And of course, my refrigerator suddenly seems to have more space when the bowls with old veggies are kept for washing by her.
#3: She invites us over for Sunday dinner. Every Sunday.
With a toddler, we’ve been terrified to go out anywhere. We land up cancelling most of our friends’ get-together as they happen in clubs. But knowing how desperately we want to go out on weekends, my mom invites us over dinner every Sunday.
As we leave the house, we feel the freshness of an outing without the actual exhaustion of going to a crowded place with a toddler.
#4: She helps me in overcoming the anxiety of being in a job, while my little angel is at home.
Unlike other moms, who struggle while joining back their workplace post-maternity leave, my transition was smoother. And, all the credit goes to my mom. She made sure that I don’t fall prey to any self-guilt!
Some days, she would drive down to my office to give me a surprise – the surprise of seeing my kid during office hours. Some days, she would send the recording of those special moments so that I don’t feel that I missed out on anything.
#5:She orders grocery and milk to make sure we are not stressed about the small stuff.
I don’t remember the last time I actually ordered my grocery. My mom is making sure that till the time I am settled in this new phase of life, I don’t have to stress myself with grocery shopping. So, she orders it before I come to know it’s going to be over. The only thing that I need to do is to pay for it.
I understand some people will argue that they don’t want to depend on their parents so much, and I do respect their choice. But, I don’t mind depending on my mom for help during the toughest phase of my life. You can’t tell a kid not to depend on her mom now, can you?
I have no shame in saying that I couldn’t do it without my mom. And, I want to thank her for all that she is doing for me and my husband. I want to thank her for helping share the load of motherhood.
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