He: “Do you want to watch another movie? I can download it quickly.”
Me: “We just finished one. It’s already 11:30 pm. Another movie means, we will sleep around 3 am. It would be too late.”
He: “You are forgetting one important thing – Kal Sunday Hai – Kal Chutti Manane Ka Din Hai. I am not even planning to get up before 1 pm.”
For almost 4 years of our marriage, our amazing lazy weekend schedules were majorly about 3 important things–
Going out on Friday nights
Watching late movies on Saturday
And, then Sleeping until noon on Sunday
As they say, “You don’t know what you’ve until it’s gone.” And, oh boy, this is so true for our relaxing and carefree weekends.
And now with 2 beautiful kids – 8-year-old daughter and 5-year-old son, the weekends are great but they are far from relaxing. Gone are the days of our lazy weekends and late nights.
Weekends are still amazing – but in a different way. They now start at 7:00 a.m. when our kids start shouting from their room and run around like A Gaddi Jiska Petrol Kabhi Khatam Nahin Hota.
By lunch, we both are so tired that while making them sleep for the afternoon, all 4 of us wrap around each other and sleep. And, then the evenings are jammed with the kids’ cartoon shows.
Don’t get me wrong. I love these moments. I really do! Unlike the weekdays, when all four of us see each other running in different directions, the weekends are the days full of family time and let us come closer to each other as a family.
But will you call me selfish if I tell you that sometimes I do miss the lazy weekend schedule?
And it’s more than the sleep or the movies. It is our late night conversation about life, dreams, books, movies, stars. And all this without worrying that I have to get up early the next day to make breakfast, get kids ready or prepare them for the exams.
I feel our connection has got limited to raising our kids – Kritika’s education, Sandy’s mischiefs, their fun activities, anything and everything about their future. And sometimes, I feel we have lost “US as a couple” in these conversations.
There are times when the woman in me yearns for those special moments with you.
But the mom in me makes her feel so selfish that it shuts her down and doesn’t let her speak up – about her wishes, her dreams, and her desires.
I sometimes wonder, do you also miss the couple fun – or is it just me who is holding the past too strong?
As per my mom,
“Jab Aurat Maa Ban Jaati Hai Toh Woh Maa Zyada Aur Aurat Kam Hoti Hai”
Do you think my mom is right?
Am I too selfish a mom to desire to spend some moments with you alone?
Do you miss your wife – Because I definitely miss my husband.
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