Most of the time, my husband is great. I mean he’s a bit moody and generally frustrated with busy office life but show me a man who isn’t. And, I would show you a woman who is very happy about being a stay-at-home mom ALL the time.
Being a software professional for almost 7 years, when I picked up the job of Stay-At-Home-Mom (SAHM), I realized how unskilled I was.
You can say that neither housekeeping nor taking care of kids is my forte. But, I do try. I really do. Like many of you, I want to keep everything tidy, clean and under control.
And some days I manage to do like a pro-SAHM. But, there are certain days when I fail miserably even after giving my heart and soul to my kids, my family and my home.
During those days, the least that you want is for someone to come to you, hold you tightly and tell you that it was a great try!
But if in those moments, your husband asks you that soul-piercing 6 words question that demean all your efforts – “What do you do all day?” – what do you do?
You could either sulk or plan a revenge. And revenge is what I did so that he always thinks before saying those 6 words again to me.
Here I share a brief of how I planned to teach my husband a very valuable lesson – a lesson that every stay-at-home-mom needs to teach her husband.
31st August 2018 7:00 pm
My husband reached home after enjoying a Friday evening at a fancy bar. He rang the bell 2-3 times and realized that no one was coming to open the door.
He started looking for his own set of keys to open the door. After a lot of struggle, he found the keys and entered the house.
As he entered the house and said his golden words – “Daddy Is Here”, his angels came running to him.
He suddenly realized that kids were full of mud – their hands, their feet, and their clothes were all dirty. He realized the kids didn’t clean themselves after playing in the garden.
And, suddenly with the budding frustration, he started looking for me.
As he entered into the hall, he saw all cushions on the floor, rugs were thrown away, lamp been knocked over, toys and clothes strewn around the floor and the Cartoon Network playing on TV on full volume. By now he was beaming with frustration.
Looking for me, he came to the kitchen hoping to find me. And what he found was a bigger mess.
He found empty food boxes and wrappers strewn around floor, lunch dishes on the dining table, breakfast food spilled on the counter, the fridge door wide open and a stinking dustbin full of waste!
He quickly headed to the bedroom, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for me. By now, he was worried that I might be ill, or that something serious had happened.
As he rushed to the bedroom, he found me curled up in the bed in my pajamas watching my all time favorite movie – 3 Idiots.
I looked up at him and asked how his day went. He looked at me in complete shock and asked, ”What happened here today?”
I just smiled.
And then said, “You know every day when you come home from work and ask me what in the world do I do all day?”
“Yes” – he said.
I answered, “Well, today I didn’t do whatever I do all day.”
He was in shock and couldn’t find any words to reply. He stood there for 2 mins, then went on to get fresh and change.
When he came back he said “I’m really sorry. I now understand what a difficult job you have and that you have been awesome at handling it”
Believe me this trick works! I borrowed it from the internet (here).
I didn’t only receive an apology, but also, I have never been asked that question again!
Husbands need to understand that being a stay at home mom isn’t easy! And, when moms are undergoing so much physical and psychological stress, the least they want is for their husbands to understand and support them in living a peaceful life.
Do let me know in the comments below if you have tried this or something similar to make sure your husband understands what a “Stay-At-Home-Mom” does all day!
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