Hey everyone - married, single, or about to get married! I’m curious: what’s your take on marriages these days? Which do you think is more successful - love marriages or arranged marriages? And which one do you think is more likely to end in divorce?
If you’re married, which type did you have, and how’s married life - happy, challenging, or somewhere in between? For those who are single or planning to marry, what’s your ideal choice and why?
I’d love to hear some real experiences, stories, and thoughts!
Been there, done that - mine was a love marriage that didn’t last. 💔 But I don’t blame love for that. What I’ve learned is: marriage works only if both people keep choosing each other every day. Whether love or arranged, it’s the effort that counts. Love marriage gives freedom, arranged gives family support - both have pros and cons.
Honestly, I’d go for love marriage. I want to know the person, their moods, their habits - not just marry based on a biodata. But I’ve also seen love marriages fail fast because expectations are sky-high. So maybe a mix? Like “arranged with love.” 😅
I’ve seen both sides in my family - some arranged couples super happy, some love marriages ending painfully. Honestly, there’s no formula. What makes it work is kindness, communication, and a bit of sense of humor. Believe me if your partner can make you laugh when times gest tough as they will surely do - you have won the lottery. Marriage is less about how it starts, more about how you continue.
Arranged marriage, 8 years strong! At first, I wasn’t sure - but I got lucky with a man - who doesn't shy away from treating me his equal - and believe me thats a very rare attribute. Over time, we built love through shared struggles. I think arranged marriages last longer because the families stay involved, but love marriages bring more emotional connect if you are with the right partner.
Mine’s a love marriage, and frankly, I think it doesn’t matter whether you have an arranged or love marriage, as long as you’re with a partner who understands and respects you! Neither love marriage nor arranged marriage guarantees that.
I’m all for love marriage - but with emotional maturity - not shutting down my brains to let the heart create havoc. I’ve seen too many arranged marriages stay together just because of “what will people say,” not because of love. I’d rather be single than stuck. Love with understanding feels more real to me.