So, I recently saw some flirty messages on my husband’s phone, and my heart just sank. I haven’t confronted him yet because I’m still trying to process what I saw - part of me wants to know the full truth, but the other part is scared of what it might mean for us. Has anyone been through something like this? What should I do - talk to him directly, wait and observe, move out, or speak to a lawyer?
You should talk to him only when you feel calm enough - don’t do it in anger, it’ll only make things worse. Just ask for the truth and let him speak. After that, take some quiet time for yourself. Think about what you really want moving forward - not what anyone expects.
You should never blame yourself for what he did. His choices say everything about him, not you. Try to take care of yourself - eat properly, rest, cry if you need to, and stay close to people who make you feel loved. You still matter. 💔
You should watch and observe for a bit - not like spying, just… noticing things. Sometimes the truth becomes clearer when you stop reacting. At the same time, keep your thoughts organized and, if needed, note things down. It helps if you ever have to make a big decision later.