Hey everyone… I really need some advice. I’m 24F, and it feels like no matter what I do, it’s never enough for my parents.
They constantly compare me to others - someone with a better job, someone in a better college, someone who’s prettier or more accomplished.
Every achievement of mine seems small in comparison.
I keep wondering - shouldn’t parents be the ones who build you up, who cheer for you, and support you no matter what? Instead, I feel like they sometimes side with relatives or strangers who judge me. It hurts deeply and shakes my confidence. I feel unseen, unappreciated, and honestly… exhausted.
Has anyone else gone through this? What should I do? How should I handle it?
How do you cope when the people who are supposed to love and support you make you feel like you’re never enough?
I just want to feel valued and supported at home.
Oh honey, I felt this deep. I’ve been on the receiving end of those comparisons too - even after becoming a mom myself. Some parents just never stop holding up that “someone better” mirror. You’ve got to stop waiting for their validation. Build your own. Start celebrating your wins, even if no one else claps. You deserve peace, not approval. 💛
Same here! My parents still not leave a moment to compare me wiht my cousins. It’s exhausting to keep proving your worth. Parents from that generation sometimes think criticism = motivation. It’s not. It’s trauma. You’re not alone, and you’re not weak for feeling hurt. It’s okay to set boundaries - politely, firmly. You can love them and still protect your peace
This hits home. My parents used to say, “We’re just pushing you to be better,” but it felt like I was never good enough. Please remember - their comparisons say more about their fears than your worth. Heal, forgive, but protect your heart. You’re doing better than you think.
I grew up the same way, and it made me anxious for years. Now, I make sure that I don't do the same to my kids... Sadly, we can’t change our parents, but we can re-parent ourselves. Be the voice that tells you “You’re enough.” Because you are. And, you may not have the parents that you deserve that doesn't mean - you are not worthy
Honestly? Move out if you can. Physical space changes everything. I love my parents, but the constant criticism made me hate myself. Once I got my own place, I finally saw my worth. You don’t owe them perfection - you owe yourself peace.
Your post broke my heart. I think your parents probably don’t realize how much their words can hurt — but that doesn’t make it okay. Indian parents really need to stop being toxic in the name of ‘wanting the best’ for their kids. Stop seeking their approval! They might never change, so start telling yourself that you are enough!