Do not doubt yourself again. Are you good enough? Yes, you are! Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. Isn’t it easy to doubt yourself? To shrink into a shell assuming that you are not good enough?
Surprisingly, it is common for people to question their abilities. The thought ‘Am I good enough’, often crops up, especially in today’s competitive world. But it is essential for you to break this image of yourself. Here in this very important post, we will attempt to answer some very important questions – Why do we feel ‘not good enough’? What are the triggers of self-doubt? And most importantly, what are the coping mechanisms to feel enough?
Why Do We Feel ‘Not Good Enough’?
Various factors might be responsible for triggering a sense of low self-esteem. These factors could be internal or external. Internal reasons revolve around how we perceive our self. It is what you say to yourself when you fail or underperform at tasks. It could be anything from a bad exam to a bad relationship that causes you to think you are not good enough.
Whereas, external factors could be related to the times when others do not take you seriously or ignore your presence or when some people avoid you or skip inviting you. Even a break-up or a cheating partner could lead one to question if ‘I am good enough?’
What Are Triggers Of Self-Doubt?
Why does the thought ‘am I good enough’ cross someone’s mind? Here are some of the possible causes:
- Being surrounded by critical or toxic people who criticize your every intention and action can lead to self-doubts.
- Having set assumptions of people and the world can also be a cause of being overly self- critical. These assumptions can stem from childhood while watching adults behave in a certain way. It can, at times, be the benchmark against which we assess our own behaviour.
- Children growing up with aloof parents or parents who haven’t been the best of caregivers may have low self-esteem.
- Also, those who have had toxic relations, sick parents, or very little attachment to family, often tend to blame or doubt themselves.
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What Are the Coping Up Mechanism To Feel Enough?
- Try to focus and tell yourself that you are good enough. In fact, everyone is. Just that they need to discard the critical voice in their head telling them to believe otherwise.
- Face and own yourself completely. Whether it is your fears, traumas, childhood incidents, or qualities that disturb you, own them. Take them in your stride and accept them as a part of who you are. And if there are some traits that you do not like, then set a plan to to upgrade and improve yourself.
- Plan your time and organize your schedule to concentrate on things that matter to you. Put your focus on what you want to do and give it your best shot. Proper planning and hard work is always good enough.
- Be kind to yourself. Remember that despite all your mistakes and flaws, there are so many beautiful facets to you. Highlight and concentrate on those and allow yourself to feel loved.
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The Bottom Line
‘Am I good enough’, is a question that must be answered in the affirmative. If you are having trouble saying ‘I am good enough’, then talking to someone you trust or considering therapy is highly recommended. Being not good enough is usually a subconscious belief that is shaped in our minds. And though tough, it is our prerogative and priority to change it. In case you would like to seek professional help to feel enough; to feel more confident, please drop at email at community@iforher.com. We will connect you with the right experts.