Life is the best teacher. It teaches valuable life lessons that no book or course or seminar could teach us. Through heartbreaks, failures, and loss, life experiences have taught us some really valuable lessons. But, what if you could skip all the pain and jump on these life lessons.
That’s what happened on this beautiful Twitter thread where women came forward to share some best life lessons. It all happened with a simple tweet when a Twitter user, Gayatri, invited women in their 40s to share the wisdom they’ve gained over the years and the answers were eye-opening.
#1: Sacrifices are over-rated
Women in their 40s, what is one life lesson you learnt late in life?
— Gee (@GayatriiM) August 18, 2020
I -learnt that sacrifices you make for others are overrated. At the end of the day, you’ll be held responsible for the choices you made esp. by those whose share of responsbilities you took over!
Over to you!
#2: Put yourself first
To be selfish and to put yourself first. Because no one else will.
— Kiran Manral (@KiranManral) August 19, 2020
#3: Don’t rush to protect unless asked
Don’t rush to help anyone just because you understand their pain and want to protect or care- unless asked for ???? very hard to stop, but constant reminder to wait helps !!!
— Ash JJ (@ashjjkk) August 19, 2020
#4: Be kind & gentle to yourself
Be kind and gentle to yourself . And it’s perfectly fine to prioritize yourself
— Lakshmi Sharath (@lakshmisharath) August 19, 2020
#5: Have faith in yourself
Unless you have faith in yourself – don’t expect others to have faith in you.
— Dr Chandrashekhar (@KolvekarChandu) August 19, 2020
#6: Learn to say no without feeling guilty
How true!!
— Shalini Baisiwala | Travel & Books |????✈????✏ (@Shalz75) August 19, 2020
I have learnt to say NO and without any guilt. Its like now I know what I dont want – very liberating to feel so
#7: Don’t keep things for LATER
There may never be a later. Don’t keep things you want to do for later. Do them now.
— Debeshi Gooptu (@DebeshiGooptu) August 19, 2020
#8: Don’t have to reply to every message
I learned that you don’t have to reply to every message you get. I learned that it’s better to evaluate relationships based on reciprocity, and that sometimes silence works better that spelling out the truth for someone( coz no one likes people that are brutally frank)
— Aishwariya(Not Rai) (@aishwariya) August 19, 2020
#9: Make choices that make you happy
That you will be condemned for whatever choice you make. So make choices which make you happy.
— Shivangi शिवांगी شیوانگی (@Shivangiyadav) August 18, 2020
#10: Don’t waste time explaining yourself to others
Two lessons actually, but related.
Prioritise your needs, because nobody else is going to do it for you.
Don’t waste time trying to explain yourself to everyone; most of the people who presume to question you actually don’t have any moral authority to do so.— Natasha ???? نتاشا (@nuts2406) August 19, 2020
#11: Learn to delegate
Absolutely yes!!
— neeru bahl (@Neeru_Bahl) August 19, 2020
A woman has to make a space for her self, her identity.
Just don’t keep waiting that someone will come n do it for you.
Don’t be an ever apologetic person bcoz U want to realize Ur dreams.
Learn to delegate.
Else U will suffer an emotional n mental burnout.
#12: Nothing is permanent, people drift away
1. Most of the people are not wholly good or bad. Someone who is a gem of a person for you can be absolutely horrible to someone else and vice versa.
— anvita (@anvitanath) August 19, 2020
2. People change as well as drift apart. Don’t harbour any hurt or animosity. It’s just another scenario of nothing-is-permanent
#13: When People hurt you, it is about them
Not yet 40 but the lesson learnt is when people hurt you intentionally it is more about them and not about you at all. So, all that you can do to help yourself is let go! #FridayMotivation #artoflettinggo #loveyourself #selfcare
— Poonam Mohapatra (@Poonam_Mohptra) August 21, 2020
#14: Everyone is flawed
Everyone is flawed. Everyone has imposter syndrome. Be you. Do what you love not what gets you to impossible standards. Be kind to yourself and others.
— Samantha C J Day (@samanthacjday) August 23, 2020
#15: We are responsible for our happiness
I am responsible for my own happiness.. And i have all the potential to create myself everyday.. And lastly IDGAF is become my fav word????
— prerna chaudhry (@Prerna18Prerna) August 19, 2020
#16: Don’t burn yourself to keep others warm
Iam below 40 but in my this age also i learnt that, you are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm. Your life is your own don’t waste it trying to be what others expect you to be. Don’t sacrifice your happiness to make everybody happy.
— Geetanjali (@geetanjali_chd) August 19, 2020
#17: People change, even your family
Not in 40’s but I would still like to reply ???? I have learnt that people change over time, irrespective of how much you have done for them, this might include family too. So it’s important to love yourself first than others. So learn to say no if it doesn’t bring you happiness.
— Aarti Madan (@AartiMadan) August 19, 2020
#18:Detachment from negative people
Detachment from negative people. Detachment does not mean not Caring . It just means putting your respect first
— Anjali Pai (@AnjaliPai1) August 19, 2020
Wow, isn’t it like a mini-guide on how women should lead their lives! We loved all of them, hope you too!