Arranged marriages are special and so is the experience with them! During arranged marriage meetings, you encounter how well-to-do, “elite”, and “educated” families also suffer from the deeply rooted patriarchal mindset.
It is disturbing how the families seeking well-educated brides carry a regressive mentality of shutting down their dreams and ambitions.
Speaking of these regressive mindsets, many women came forward on Twitter to share their experience with the arranged marriage meetings.
They revealed shocking things they were asked to do by their to-be in-laws or to-be husbands post marriage. Some also shared how their relatives shamelessly commented on their body or education on the premise of them getting married.
Have a look:
“I wake up at 5 am daily to perform puja. Don’t expect you to follow this, but since I head to work at 8 am, it would help if you could wake up with me and get breakfast and my work clothes ready.”
— Rituparna Chatterjee (@MasalaBai) July 25, 2020
I was told this by a 29-yr-old potential match in 2008. https://t.co/RUVJADAnKJ
I was asked if I could cook cause the guy stayed alone in Bangalore and doesn’t like food cooked by the maid, that I would have to put Ghunghat whenever I would have to visit sasural not just covering the head, but whole face has to be covered
— Godhuli (@godhuliaa) July 25, 2020
One of the “matches”, an investment banker proposed that he is willing to pay off all my education loan, so that I can live a chilled out life at home!
— ParmanuShree (@ParmanuShree) July 25, 2020
I asked him to pay the restaurant bill and leave. ????#indianmatchmakingnetflix
A potential match once told me that his family follows the Radha Swami school. I said I didn’t believe in any religious practices, only good deeds. He said ‘it’s ok, u can take ur time. My family is quite accommodating’ ????
— Nirjhara (@nirjhara) July 25, 2020
My parents met with a potential match’s family – years ago. The idiot parents wanted to know how much land my family owns ????????♀️ #IndianMatchmaking
— SaraG (@SaraonJi) July 25, 2020
I was proudly informed by my father in law that a party from Calcutta had offered him a blank cheque for his son.
— Shilpa Gupta (@iamsc0rpi0) July 25, 2020
Me: Oh! There’s an auction?
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Some women also came forward to share how their relatives also shamed them for not being an ideal fit for arranged marriages!
Your relatives make you feel like your entire existence is centred around a man. I ws one of the tallest in my school but all I got to hear at home was that it’ll be a problem for me to find a match. You have the nerve to tell a 15-year-old that she’ll never find someone? Freaks!
— Prerna Lidhoo (@PLidhoo) July 25, 2020
Plus I don’t cook everyday so that’s two big negatives that won’t work in my favor. They said they could only place their hopes on the fact that I was fair skinned.
— Sandhya Ramesh (@sandygrains) July 25, 2020
I’m 24. When I started my college, my aunt (who herself is an MD in surgery) told me that I shouldn’t study a lot, it will deter me from getting a ‘good’ match as guys usually prefer someone less qualified than them.
— Ishita Roy (@Kyunrius) July 25, 2020
And now as I have not eloped nad more qualified thn my sisters and I earn more too they say because of this u ll never find a match..
— Nehazina (@Neha45993729) July 25, 2020
Indian mentality will never change????
I was told by my relatives that if I will pursue MBA after my engineering then when will I marry ????
— sneha (@bornt0pizza) July 25, 2020
Aren’t these experiences heartbreaking and disappointing? How even in the 21st century, our patriarchal thinking is failing independent women makes us angry and sad!