Hey IforHer family,
I really need your advice… Lately, I’ve been noticing my husband checking out other women.
Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes it’s more obvious, and yes, it’s even happened right in front of me.
I don’t want to overreact, but I can’t help feeling hurt, insecure, and honestly… heartbroken. It makes me question myself, and I feel this ache that I can’t just shake off.
Has anyone else gone through this? How do you deal with it without losing yourself?
I’m scared that if I bring it up, it might turn into a fight. But if I ignore it, I feel like I’m just bottling up my pain. What would you do in my place?
Oh, I’ve been there. My ex-husband used to do that too, and it slowly chipped away at my confidence. 💔 What I learned? You can’t control someone’s eyes, but you can set boundaries. Calmly tell him how it makes you feel. If he values you, he’ll make an effort to stop. If not, that says enough.
I’m not married yet, but even in dating - this hurts . My ex used to do it. You start questioning if you’re not enough. But I think communication is key. Sometimes men don’t even realize how disrespectful it looks. If I were you, I’d bring it up gently and discuss it.
As someone single, I’ll say - you deserve respect, not tolerance. It’s one thing to notice beauty; it’s another to disrespect your partner by making it obvious. Don’t gaslight yourself into thinking you’re overreacting. You’re not.
Would suggest you definitely talk to your husband about it. I have a friend who went through the same thing…I could see how it was making her underconfident with every passing day. Better for marriage and mental health that you speak up!
My fiancé - now husband - once did that and it really shook me. I told him right away - calmly, but clearly - that it hurt me. He apologized and hasn’t done it since. Sometimes men just need to know where your emotional line is. You’re not asking too much for basic respect.