Hey IforHer peeps! I need your advice. My mother-in-law seriously never seems happy. I try my best - treat her like my own mother, give her respect even when she’s insulting me, and do everything a good daughter-in-law should - but there’s always something about me that makes her unhappy.
I really want to keep the peace, but it’s getting exhausting and honestly very stressful.
Has anyone else been in this situation? What should I do?
Oh, I totally feel you. I had an overbearing MIL during my marriage, and no matter what I did, it was never enough. The truth? Some people thrive on control. Stop trying to win her over - live peacefully, but set boundaries. Respect doesn’t mean losing yourself.
Honestly, this is one of the biggest reasons I’m scared of marriage 😅. From what I’ve seen, you can’t please someone who doesn’t want to be pleased. Just keep being kind, but don’t let her unhappiness define your peace.
I’ve watched my mom go through this with my grandmother for years. Some MILs just see their DIL as competition. It’s not you - it’s her insecurity. You can show respect, but you don’t owe her your mental health.
Why a woman can't support another woman? This is sad!
Same story here. I bent over backward for years until I realized she just wanted control. Once I stopped reacting and started smiling through her comments, she lost interest in picking fights. Silence is your superpower sometimes.
You need to stand up for yourself, Lady! Respect is a two-way street! Give respect to get respect!