“You keep a lot to yourself because it’s difficult to find people who understand.”
Many times we find it hard to talk to others and to express what we are going through.
Even if we have hundreds of people around us, we still struggle to find that one person with whom we can open up and share our story.
Gradually we start getting into our shell more and more and bottle up our thoughts believing that no one will ever understand!
With the passage of time, these thoughts become our only companion and we are dragged in the zone of loneliness without even knowing about it. Sadly, it could happen to any of us – a young boy or a teenager or a young man or a married woman or an aged couple. Any of us could feel lonely at some point in time and there is no shame in accepting it.
But the feeling of loneliness needs to be cured as it could lead to many health issues if not treated in time. If you are planning to help yourself in overcoming loneliness, then you must understand – WHY YOU FEEL LONELY?
There are majorly 7 triggers that lead to a feeling of loneliness. Some may call them as “7 Types of loneliness” too.
So before we design the plan of action to overcome loneliness, let’s analyze what is the cause of your loneliness?
Triggers Or Types of Loneliness
Type of Loneliness #1: New Situation Loneliness
This feeling of loneliness is triggered by a new situation, new place, new job, new college or a new city. It could be because of a lack of familiarity with the situation or people around us. For instance, when you join a new office in a new location, you may feel lonely as you may not have friends and are not familiar with the faces, you may not have anyone to talk to.
Type of Loneliness #2: I Am Different Loneliness
This type of loneliness is triggered by being different from the people around you. You may have a feeling of being the misfit. And, as you may not share similar values or viewpoints, there might be a situation that you need to stand away from the crowd. In those difficult situations, you may encounter a lack of feeling of belongingness and hence, you may feel lonely.
Type of Loneliness #3: No Special One Loneliness
Every one of us has someone special in our lives. It might be our parents, siblings, boyfriend or girlfriend. Once we lose them due to any reason we start feeling lonely as we miss their presence. A person who was there to hold us, who was there with us through thick and thin. Even if we are surrounded by a lot of people we still crave the presence of that one person and end up being lonely.
Type of Loneliness #4: No Pet Loneliness
People nowadays are getting more and more attached to their pets, who are becoming a part of the person’s daily routine. People have dogs, cats, parrots and many more as their pets, who become their family members. When these pets die, people grieve & miss their presence and feel lonely.
Type of Loneliness #5: No Time For Me Loneliness
Sometimes in our life, the people who once were in constant touch, are not able to talk often. This could happen as they have either gotten a new job or changed their place or got married. Because of which, they couldn’t give us the amount of time that they used to give us earlier. This could also trigger loneliness as we may not find anyone to talk to or spend time with.
Type of Loneliness #6: Treacherous Friend Loneliness
A person may have a lot of friends around himself with whom (s)he enjoys a lot, travels a lot and talks a lot. But there comes a time when a person wants to share his/her personal things with the friend, (s)he doesn’t find anyone fit to be in the trusted circle. In that case, the person won’t have any other choice but to keep his thoughts to himself and ends up being lonely.
Type of Loneliness #7: Absence of Partner Loneliness
A partner can be more than a wife or a husband, it can also be your colleague, your roommate or even your sibling. Everyone needs a partner at each phase of life – Someone who comforts us, someone, who is there to help, someone who never judges us. Absence of such a person could trigger loneliness.
If you feel lonely then please don’t ignore it. As per experts, loneliness can trigger depression if left untreated. So, please chalk out a plan to get rid of loneliness as soon as possible.
You could start designing your plan based on the trigger that led to loneliness in the first place. For instance: If you fall into the category of “No Time For Me” loneliness, then it’s time to make new friends and get rid of loneliness.