Even though we are living in 2020, our society still expects a woman to compromise on every aspect of her life after marriage. It is disheartening to see how society expects even educated & independent women to bow down to the unrealistic demands of in-laws.
Our society raises many young Indian women to give up on their dreams, desires, and life after marriage. Since our childhood, we are trained to adjust and sacrifice. Because, as per our society, the only thing that would decide how successful we will be is based on our ability to adjust to our husband, in-laws, and kids after marriage.
But, thanks to changing times and great parenting, many strong and independent women are not ready to give up on their dreams for marriage.
Unlike the earlier generation, the women of this generation don’t accept anything less than the equal partnership in relationships. They are not scared to stay single till the time they don’t find someone who sees them as equals.
One such brave woman shared her inspiring story on HoB. She refused to accept the unrealistic expectations of her to-be in-laws and decided to prioritize her career over marriage.
In her inspiring story, she shared:
“I’m 29, single, and in that phase of my life where I’m meeting guys for arranged marriage. And the experience has been absolutely irritating! Before going into it, I made sure to set the condition that I wouldn’t give up my work after marriage. But almost every guy I’ve met over the past 2 years has either not been okay with this, has had a problem with my outgoing personality, or sometimes, has just been plain annoying.
Once I met this guy, and on the first date itself he planned our honeymoon and future children! Then another time, this family told me to give up my corporate HR job and work in their family business — they said, ‘HR isn’t work, so why don’t you just quit and actually do some work for our business.’ It was if they had no respect for my career! Recently, a guy’s mother said to me, ‘You must know how to cook, I make 4 lunchboxes as of now, for my husband and 3 sons, I don’t want to make 5.’
These families…these boys…sometimes I just feel like they want a glorified maid as their daughter-in-law. As much as I want a life partner, I know I’ll never be able to settle for anything less than what I deserve. That’s something that needs to be respected. I’m an independent, career-oriented woman — I’m definitely not giving up on what I love for being the gharelu bahu they expect me to be!”
At I FOR HER, we applaud this woman’s courage to stand up for herself and her dreams. We wish the best for her life & career, and hope her story will inspire many young women to be with someone who lifts them higher and doesn’t pull them down!