If you are looking for an inspiration to fight your life circumstances, this real-life story will leave you with courage and determination.
Sharing how you can fight any life circumstance with a smile, this woman shared her beautiful story with HoB that touched our soul. While sharing how to proudly embrace your disability, she mentioned:
“Just the other day, an aunty came up to me and said, ‘Haye, beta kaun shaadi karega tumse?’ All I wanted to tell her was, ‘Aunty, aapko mere online profile ke matches dikhau?’ People assume that just because I’m on a wheelchair, I have a non-existent dating life! That’s utter rubbish! I’m actually on all dating platforms and my profile has pictures of me on my wheelchair–I’ve got nothing to hide!
I used to be pretty underconfident initially and so I dated anyone who showed the least bit of an interest in me–I was naïve and wanted the experience of having a ‘boyfriend’ just like my friends. This basically led to a series of toxic relationships after which I swore off men and focused on myself.
But a few years later I discovered the world of online dating. Initially because of my insecurities, I only uploaded selfies. I planned a date with a decent guy, but the entire time I was waiting for him, I was anxious about what he would say on seeing me.
When he arrived, he was a little taken aback but as the date progressed, we were bouncing off belly laughs. Towards the end of the date I plucked up the courage and asked him, ‘Does my disability bother you?’ and he replied saying, ‘Would I’ve stayed this long if it did?’
That’s when I started uploading images of me on my wheelchair because it’s my reality! And to my surprise, people started taking interest in me–they wanted to know more and meet me. And I’ve been fortunate enough to have met some amazing men and gone out on some really great dates–be it wine tasting or candle lit dinners or something as simple as playing jenga while sipping on beers.
But I’ve also met a few weirdos–one guy proposed marriage on the first date. It’s the 21st century, so I’m sorry…but I ghosted him! But overall, the experience has been a lot of fun. I usually keep the mood light, so many times towards the end of the date guys have been like, ‘Utho, chalte hai?’ to only look embarrassed. But I just laugh it off.
People ask me, where do you get this confidence from? And that question just annoys me. Why shouldn’t I be confident? I’ve a great personality and such a cute smile! Moreover, everyone has some shortcomings or the other; the only difference is, meri disability dikh jaati hai! But well, that has also worked in my favor–my wheelchair actually became my wingman!”
At IFORHER, we are in awe of this inspiring soul. After listening to her inspiring story and optimistic attitude, how can’t we fall in love with her spirit! Thanks wonder woman for showing us how to lead a fulfilled life!
“Jeena Issi Ka Naam Hai”!