Why Does Everyone Hate A Confident Woman Who Speaks Her Mind?

We are living in the 21st century but it is sad how our society still can’t accept a confident woman who speaks her mind.

Though we talk about raising strong and independent women, we want meek daughters, daughters-in-law, or wife. It is heartbreaking how a woman, who knows what she wants and speaks her mind, is neither respected at home nor at work.

“I don’t want to marry. I want to build my career”

says the daughter, who has just got a promotion and an onsite opportunity. But her parents not very keen on listening to what she wants. They don’t want to postpone her marriage for another 2 years. So when she speaks up her mind to live life on her own terms, her parents’ immediate reaction is: 

“This is what you get when you educate your daughter too much!” 

It is heartbreaking how the parents who actually raised their daughters to be strong and independent, don’t take a moment to curse their education for speaking up their mind. But, this is not just the reality of our daughters. This lack of acceptance continues after she gets married or even at work. 

“You can’t insult me or my parents. I am not your slave.”, says the woman who has been insulted for being a daughter-in-law. It is sad how many Indian families believe it is fine to insult their daughters-in-law. But when our strong and independent daughters stand for their dignity against the abusive in-laws and speak up their mind, the in-laws quickly want to blame their education for raising their voice:

“This is how you talk to your elders. You have no sanskaar. That’s what happens when you get too educated bahu!”

Our women are not only rejected for speaking up their mind at home but also at work. 

“Oh, she is such a b***h! What does she think of herself? Did you see how she demanded us to submit the report?”, says a disgruntled male colleague who has problems taking orders from a female boss. 

It is heartbreaking how our women have to struggle every day all alone to make their voices heard at their homes and at work. And, society leaves no chance to blame their education for raising their voices. They tend to forget that education is the strength that gives us the confidence to make our voices heard. 

To every confident woman, 

Society may not accept you. They may call you names – badatmeez, rebel, or unsanskaari. But remember, you and I have the right to live life on our own terms as much as anybody else. Please don’t succumb to the pressure of society and give up your voice. Because our voice needs to be heard. If society isn’t ready to accept a confident woman, then that is its problem, not ours. 

We have wings, so we will fly. We have a voice, and we will be heard!