No one can deny how selfless our mothers are. They dedicate their whole lives to make sure that we have the best in ours. But, it is heartbreaking how we tend to forget the endless sacrifices and contributions that she made for the family.
Recalling her mother’s endless sacrifices and hardships, Sarayu Mohanachandran, an IAS officer, recently shared an emotional note on Facebook. Sarayu, who is a native of Kerala, is currently posted in Tamil Nadu’s Nilgiris district. In her post, she described how her mother Khadeeja made endless sacrifices while raising their family.
After Surayu’s mother was diagnosed with Osteoporosis, she took to her Facebook account to share in her heart touching note. She wrote about how her mother had worked day & night to fulfill her family and work responsibilities, often neglecting her own health.
Shared by asource, here is the English translation of the original Malayalam post that she wrote to her mom :
It has been three years since knee pain started disturbing my mother.
Despite that, my mother kept running around after eating pills. She didn’t break my dad’s naughty food habits or her grandson’s naughtiness.
The pain was getting worse. But I tried to postpone going to the hospital fearing COVID. My sister rushed to help at home.
But now the pain would not leave my mom. Finally, they went to Amrita Hospital.
Her knees, which have been running around for us, are very painful. That’s why she can’t sleep at night.
The doctors say both her knees have deteriorated by 40%, and that a knee replacement surgery is the only solution.
Due to the situation, the doctor gave her an injection for interim relief and sent her back.
These legs are all worn out for us. My mother’s daily routine, for the last 40 years, began by giving black tea to Appa, who will be reading the newspaper in the morning. Then, like a machine, she would make curry, rice, warm water, and then clean the yard.
We would try to help her, but my mother would work with as if she had a hundred hands to finish it before she went to work.
After reaching home from her office, she would run to the kitchen. Once those chores were done, she would sit with any pending files from her office.
Further adding how her mother sacrificed her whole life for the family, she mentioned:
Meanwhile, I am the one who disturbed my mother the most. More than half of the 40% osteoporosis has to be thanks to me.
Despite all that, when I in second grade, my mother enrolled in LLB also!
Mother would do everything for my siblings and me. She would drop us at different locations so that I could take part in quiz competitions and she would buy every book I asked.
When I began preparing for the IAS, only my mother believed in me. I was daunted by the mock test thanks to the low marks I scored and the vast syllabus that I hadn’t studied yet. But my mother stood with me. She would say, “If you don’t crack it, who else can?”
Even though I got into the service, my mom’s duties didn’t reduce. My mom would run along with my transfer orders, after getting my stuff packed and then making sure it re-settled properly in the new destination.
Though every posting had a house and kitchen, my mother would teach my favourite dishes to my caretakers at home.
After her retirement, my mother shocked us again by enrolling as a lawyer.
Ending the note, Sarayu expresses guilt that her mother, like many others, did not live the life she deserved.
I feel guilty when I look back. My mom was a member of the college union, but because of us, my mother didn’t get the life she deserved. There were so many good writings my mother had to write.
We shouldn’t have laughed when my dad made fun of her when she could not find time to read a book.
Now, I have realised that my mother didn’t read so that we could.
May her pain be relieved, and may she come back as a Miduki (smart woman), wear a lawyer’s gowns and start practising, write about her revolutionary love story.
At IFORHER, we are in awe of this heart-touching post that reminded us how we tend to forget our mother’s struggles. While mothers sacrifice so much for the family, we wish our mothers would realize the importance of their own health and prioritize it over other’s happiness.
P.S. Dear Khadeeja, we wish you a speedy recovery! Please get well soon.