Doesn’t matter if you are a mother or a college-going student or a budding professional, one thing that all of us go through is a feeling of guilt.
Sometimes, for not being good enough mothers or for not being ambitious enough at work; For being too obsessed with our looks or for not being good looking; For not being assertive enough or for being pushy enough; For being loud or not being loud enough.
In short, women feel guilty about different things. But one can’t deny that all women struggle with the common feeling of being guilty.
Actor Sakshi Tanwar recently spoke about the topic recently. She talked about how women find it difficult to break away from the confines of their domestic life and its responsibility because we are burdened with inherent guilt.
Sakshi who recently worked on the short film Ghar Ki Murgi, a tribute to selfless homemakers, shared how the social conditioning of women stops us from enjoying freedom. Talking about guilt, she shared:
“Guilt is a very woman thing. Sometimes this responsibility is not even put upon us we willing take up on us. I am sure, when you will have a chat with your family, they will say, ok, go take a break. But sometimes out of our own guilt we never bring it up.”
She further added:
“Today in educated homes, the scenario is far more different. Some people understand and respect that the woman is working and there are some men who are sharing the responsibility.”
While many mothers silently struggle to bear the burden of responsibilities, Sakshi shares how they take it for granted.
“I have seen it, in reference to my mother, this happens in every house. We all have taken our mothers for granted. I am still in a way taking my mother for granted.”
Women & Guilt Of Not Being Enough
It is heartbreaking to see how women are under the constant pressure of not being enough – not being a good wife, mother or daughter or professional. Society glorifies the need for women to be perfect in every aspect.
It is high time we free ourselves from the chains of the guilt of not being perfect. It is more important than ever that women give up the sub-conscious desire to live life as per the rules drawn by society.
Sadly, multiple research studies have found that women feel more guilty about things than men. And, these studies are a clear reflection of how our husbands and sons live a life of lesser guilt and more happiness.
As women, we have been raised to hold the burden of responsibilities from a very young age. And with that burden of responsibilities, we are raised to be judged – sometimes society judges us, sometimes our friends & family and sometimes, we ourselves judge us.
The Bottom Line
Like many of us, if you are really exhausted trying to be the best wife, mother or daughter, we have a humble request: Please stop judging yourself and free yourself of this guilt. Because you may not be perfect, but you are special. And you deserve happiness like everyone else.
If you are one of those, who have broken the chains of feeling guilty of not being perfect, then we salute you! Because you are no less than a HERO for millions of women, who are struggling to accept their imperfections.