Do you know once Sudha Murty went onto the sets of a TV program to give an important piece of advice on the portrayal of Indian Mother-In-Law to the bewildered actors?
In one of her famous conversations on TV, Sudha Murty gave beautiful advice to all Mothers-In-Law. She said:
“Don’t turn the mother-in-law into a stereotypical shrewd. Treat her with compassion. People are not all good or all bad, circumstances make them act in a certain way. Women have many facets to them.”
As per ToI, this incident happened on the set of a TV program, based on her book – Dollar Bahu. But, many daughters-in-law in India would agree to the stereotypical controlling version of Mothers-In-Law projected onscreen.
In a country, where mothers-in-law share a complex relationship with their daughters-in-law, we feel Sudha Murty was an ideal role model for many Indian mothers-in-law.
In one of her interviews in TOI, when she was asked about how Sudha Murty as a mother-in-law, her heart-touching response made us believe that why she is a modern era Mother-In-Law whom we all need.
#1: No Burden Of Expectations
About what kind of mother-in-law she is, Sudha shared:
“You have to ask my son-in-law and daughter-inlaw about that! My latest book The Day I Stopped Drinking Milk has been dedicated to Rishi and Lakshmi, my son-in-law and daughter-in-law, respectively.
I tell them that they do not have to make any adjustments for us.
It is we, the older generation, who should be making the adjustments.
Let’s never forget that we’ve had our innings and it’s now time for them to start and open theirs. We should make way for the youngsters instead of expecting them to come around to our ways.”
In a society, where the older generation expects the young generation to make adjustments and compromises, it is heartwarming to hear how Sudha Murty believes that neither the son-in-law or daughter-in-law needs to make an adjustment.
#2: Art Of Letting Go
While many Indian parents struggle with the art of letting go of their kids as they grow up, Sudha Murty believes in the philosophy of attachment in detachment. She shares how with age, parents need to learn the art of letting go of their kids.
In her post, she shares:
“I remain detached in the sense that I do not expect them to reciprocate my affection. Most importantly, I make a conscious effort, not to interfere or pass judgments on the lives they choose to lead.
My concern for my near and dear ones will not fade with my detachment. If you let go of the ones you love, they will never go away – this is the beauty of attachment with detachment!
At IFORHER, we believe Sudha Murty is a brilliant, brave, and inspiring role model for all mothers-in-law across the country.
We know there are many great mothers-in-law, who have been the pillar of strength for their daughter-in-law during tough life situations. If you are one of those or you are blessed to have such a mother-in-law, please share your inspiring story with us.