When faced with failure or rejection, most of us lock ourselves in the darkness to run away from sadness, pain, and disappointment.
We usually tend to blame other people for the bad things that happen to us. Doesn’t matter if it is about a bad relationship, a bad career, or a bad marriage, many of us find rescue in blaming others for the failure.
But there are only a few, who don’t indulge in the blame game. They rather focus their strength to make sure life circumstances don’t stop them from achieving their dreams.
N. Ambika is one such courageous woman, whose life has inspired many men and women, who felt helpless while fighting against their life circumstances.
Recently, IPS Dr. Arpit Jain shared Ambika’s inspiring journey on social media:
N. Ambika was only 14 years old when she got married to a Police constable at Dindigul, Tamil Nadu. And, by age of 18, Ambika was blessed with two beautiful daughters – Aigan and Niharika.
Though this brave woman was a victim of child marriage, she refused to spend her whole life blaming the system. Rather, she dedicated her life to fighting against the system and win over it – to bring the change.
Ambika’s husband, who worked as a Police Constable in Tamil Nadu Government, one fine day, left his home early to attend a Parade program and the guests were followed by the IGP and DGP of the respective locality.
The honor and respect given to the DGP and IGP left Ambika not only curious but also excited. And, on the same day when her husband arrived back home, she asked him about who those people were.
And, when her husband told her that they were rank 1 officers for their department, a dream was born in the Ambika’s eyes that she knew was her calling.
Ambika’s journey of becoming an officer to that level was neither simple nor easy. But, she made sure that she never gives up.
Ambika wasn’t alone in her journey of making her dream a reality. At every step, when Ambika was supported by her inspiring husband.
As Ambika was married at a very young age, she couldn’t even complete her SSLC.
But, it was her husband, who supported her dream, and adviced her to take the external SSLC and later she even completed external PUC and Degree.
And, when she requested her husband if he can make her accommodation arrangements as she wanted to move to Chennai for the IPS coaching, her husband supported her in all the ways. He arranged a PG facility for her in Chennai and made all other arrangements for her IPS Coaching.
When even after a lot of effort, Ambika failed to clear IPS in 3 attempts, her husband comforted her and asked her to come back.
While Ambika listened to her husband patiently, she asked for one more year to try. She told him if she wouldn’t pass, she would come back. She knew her struggle to clear one of the most reputed exam made her competent enough to atleast work as a Teacher, even if she couldn’t clear the exam.
But, in her fourth attempt, Ambika not only cleared IPS prelims but also cracked Mains and Interview.
After clearing IPS in 2008, Ambika finished her training. During the training, her batchmates not only appreciated her attentiveness but also her courage.
As Ambika now works as a DCP- North 4 division in Mumbai, her life teaches us one of the most important lessons.
If Ambika would have been busy blaming her parents for child marriage then she wouldn’t have become DCP today. Instead she made an inspiring attempt to come outside of that system to change it.