Though we say men and women are equal in marriage but are they?
If yes, then why our society always expects the bride to leave her house to move into her husband’s? Why the society labels a husband living with his in-laws as disgraceful and disrespectful?
Known for his forward-thinking – Ranveer Singh moved into his wife Deepika’s apartment. Some orthodox and male-chauvinists criticized his action and called him a person with low or no self-respect.
But, we hardly think a man who makes his wife’s comfort his priority should be disrespected.
On the contrary, he should be celebrated in a country like India where all our traditions are deeply rooted in a patriarchal thought-process.
As Deepika has been living in the apartment for several years, Ranveer clearly articulated that his priority was Deepika’s comfort and he was not keen to give more importance to tradition than his wife.
As per AsiaTimes, Ranveer said:
“The most sensible and convenient thing was for me to move into her set-up. She is comfortable there and I don’t want to displace her. I always try to give her priority.”
We wish more men learn from Ranveer that the foundation of any marriage should lie on the basic premise of caring for each other, rather than blindly following traditions, people and society.
People who see it as a popularity stunt are actually blinded to the influence of Bollywood on society. It might be a popularity stunt! But, we believe Ranveer’s action will have far fetched influence on how society perceives the man who moves in with his wife.
The traditional outlook forces us to still believe that man has the onus of supporting his wife and children. Hence, the man moving in with his wife is a labeled a freeloader with no self-respect.
The same has been promoted by our movies for many years. How can one forget the famous 90s-Bollywood-hit Jamai Raja starring Anil Kapoor and Madhuri Dixit? An unemployed boy was allowed to marry his rich love only on the condition of living with her parents.
The whole movie made you believe that living with your in-laws is not only humiliating but also disrespectful.
But, in modern times, when both husband and wife earn, we were hoping the expectation of woman following the husband after marriage should have been obsolete. But, that has not happened.
While growing up, our girls are told zillion times that they will have to leave their parents’ home after marriage and move in with a new family. On the other hand, the boys are hardly being told such things.
Understanding their power of influence, Bollywood movies and the actors have understood their responsibility in making the society better!
No wonders, recently, Bollywood has given us unusual films like Ki & Ka. Through progressive film like Ki & Ka, society is being acquainted with an alternate thought process. The movie attempted to make our society rethink its sexist norms. It tried to show that a man has an option to be a ‘house-husband’ without it being disrespectful.
Movies like Ki & Ka and Off-screen moves like Ranveer moving in with wife Deepika are baby steps towards breaking centuries-old gender norms in India.
Hope these positive actions will make people understand why there is no shame for a man moving into his wife’s house!