Last month, 24-year-old Kshama Bindu grabbed the headline as she announced her self-marriage. This marriage had many rituals like traditional marriage but what set it apart was that there was no groom.
In an intimate marriage, Kshama fulfilled her promise and married herself. And, as she is happily married, she is looking forward to the honeymoon. In her interview with TOI, she said, “Like any bride, I am very excited about my honeymoon. I will leave for Goa on August 7 and record all my special moments there on my mobile phone.”
And, as Kshama is getting ready to celebrate her birthday on August 10, she is really excited. She is busy creating her bucket list for the Goa trip as she shortlists the places that she will soon be going to. “I will spend a lot of time at the vibrant Arambol beach, where I can wear a bikini without anyone ogling at me. The beach hosts many events and is one of my favorite and dream destinations in Goa,” she said.
Rather than being worried about the invasive questions that people will pose to her about her “spouse”, she is excited to use it as an opportunity to build awareness about solo-gamy. While sharing her views, she said: “When I am on a honeymoon, people will know I am married and will obviously ask about my husband. I will get a chance then to explain to them all about solo-gamy and why I married myself,”
Sharing the details about her life post-marriage, she said, “I am very happy and taking good care of myself as couples do after marriage. My friends and family have been very supportive.”
As per the report, Bindu had to leave her flat as her neighbors constantly complained about her countless visitors. Bindu further shared, “I have also changed my job. I have some savings that I will use for my honeymoon, and upon return, I will apply for marriage registration.”
Talking about the best part about solo-gamy, she told Al Jazeera,“I don’t need anybody else’s validation. I don’t have to think about moving to a different city because my partner has to move. I can think just about myself.”
We all witnessed the endless trolling and shaming that Bindu faced when she announced her decision of self-marriage. During her earlier interviews, she shared how so many priests even refused to perform her self-marriage rituals. In the end, she took marriage vows while playing wedding mantras on a Bluetooth speaker on 8th June. As Bindu didn’t want to ruin her special day with the endless criticism and social media trolls, she decided to have an intimate wedding at home.
Her powerful message for the trolls is so inspiring. She said, “I want to give only one answer to the trollers: that it is my life, and I have taken this decision for myself.” When asked if she would ever marry somebody else in her life, she said, “I might start liking someone in the future, but it is not necessary that I will be somebody’s wife.”
Setting an example of self-love, Bindu shared how self-marriage is no different from a traditional marriage. She believes that it is necessary to have a love for each other in a marriage and since she loved herself, she married herself.
While Bindu received mixed reactions on the internet, she didn’t let the negativity ruin her happiness. And, as she embarks on a new journey, we wish her luck and love. Because, who are we to judge? And, what’s wrong in deciding whom you want to marry – even if that is your own self!