We live in a society that is obsessed with marriage. After a certain age, women are even told to give up on the dreams of higher education or a career just because of marriage. While many succumb to society’s pressure, there are few, who are able to stand against the pressure and live life on their own terms. One such woman is 24-year-old, Kshama Bindu from Vadodara, Gujarat.
Kshama Bindu Has Decided To Marry Herself: Act Of Self Marriage
As per the Times of India, the 24-year-old girl, Kshama Bindu, has decided to tie the knot with herself. Though the idea may sound bizarre, it is definitely one of the growing relationship trends across the world. Famously known as solo-gamy or self-marriage, this trend has gathered quite a traction among the young generation, especially women. While sharing the reason behind her decision of self-marriage with ToI, Kshama explained: “I never wanted to get married. But I did want to become a bride. So I decided to marry myself.”
What Is Sologamy or Self-Marriage?
While explaining the significance behind sologamy or self-marriage, Kshama said it is a commitment towards oneself and “an act of self-acceptance”. She further added that her self-marriage is no different from people marrying someone else. “Self-marriage is a commitment to be there for yourself and unconditional love for oneself. It’s also an act of self-acceptance. People marry someone they love. I love myself and hence this wedding,” explained Kshama.
Is It First Self Marriage In India?
Kshama, a private firm employee, also shared that she tried to look for any woman who had married herself or had practiced sologamy in India but couldn’t find any. That’s the reason why she also believes that her marriage might mark the first instance of “self-love” in the country. “Maybe I am the first to set an example of self-love in our country.”
Kshama also noted that her decision to get hitched to herself can be irrelevant to some people. However, the bride-to-be insisted: “What I am actually trying to portray is that women matter.” Moreover, Kshama shared that being open-minded, her parents have also given their nod to the wedding.
On June 11, the to-be bride is all set to take the pheras with herself. This marriage may not have a groom, there will still be some marriage rituals like wearing the vermilion. She has also written five vows for herself. But, that’s not it. Kshama has also chalked up honeymoon plans. She will be leaving for a two-week Goa trip once married.
Sometime back, even an Oxford University student married herself as she was frustrated with the constant parental pressure of getting married. Lulu fed up with her family lecturing her on the importance of settling down with the right man – walked herself down the aisle.
Do let us know what you think about the increasing practice of self-marriage or solo-gamy?