Moving out of toxic marriage is never easy. But, for the sake of her dignity and kid’s future, this mother gathered the courage to fight back.
With the hope to get things better, this mother kept spending her life in a toxic marriage.
But then one day, when she realized how this toxic marriage was affecting her kids, she picked her twin babies of age 5 and embarked on the journey that may have a lot of challenges. But this would let her build a happy and respectful life for her kids.
Here’s her inspiring struggle:
” I was raised by parents, who believed men and women are equal. So, my parents left no stone unturned in raising me as strong and independent. I completed my post graduation in Maths and had an opportunity to work with Indian MNCs. I was doing great in my career when I met my husband for arranged marriage.
Like every other girl, I also expected my to-be husband to be loving, caring, honest but most importantly, a supportive friend who will help me in turning my dreams into realities. I always told myself that I would accept my in laws as my own parents – I would treat my mother in law as my own mother and love my sister in law as my own sister.
But, I never wondered what if they never accept me as their own.
After marriage, all my expectations from marriage were devastated. With every passing day, I realized how my husband was and my in-laws never accepted me. They left not even a single chance to pull me down. My mental state kept deterioting. Once a confident woman started losing her confidence. My life was hell day and night. But I kept still hoping that things will get better one day.
After a year of my marriage, I was blessed with twins. I thought my life would turn into a better one and the abuse would stop. But it never did.
My husband forced me to leave my job after pregnancy because we had twins. It wasn’t easy raising twins with no support from in-laws isn’t easy. I wanted to raise my kids as best as I could.
That’s the reason why I kept suffering in silence with the persistent mental torture. It is heartbreaking how in our society, when a woman has kids, thinking about separation is a big NO.
My husband never had time for kids. He kept picking up fights with me in front of my kids. But things got worse when he beat me in front of my 5-year-old kids. While they watched their mother being beaten, I kept thinking what kind of atmosphere I was raising them in.
In that moment, I decided I have to move out of this 6-year long toxic marriage.
I decided to not only give myself another chance at life but also to my kids. I thought rather than suffering in silence, let me fight once for myself and my kids.
I rented a home near my mom’s home. The next issue that I fought was the financial challenge. I promised myself that I won’t stop till I find a job. I gave around 30 interviews in a month. And thankfully, life answered my hardwork as I got a job and became financially independent.
Though I may not have my husband, but I am happy atleast I am raising my kids in a happy environment. I may still have financial struggle but am much more mentally relaxed.
Though my legal battle of separation is still on, but I am not losing hope. I am a fighter and I won’t stop fighting till my kids have a happy life that they deserve.
Whenever things get tough, I look into my kids’ eyes. Their happiness takes away all my pain and give me new sense of courage and pride.
To those mothers, who are struggling with abuse:
I am 34 years old single mother with my twins kids, who are 7 years old now. We are 3 happy souls who are living life on our own terms. If you are struggling in your marriage, please don’t let society tell you that you have to keep staying in an abusive marriage for your kids. Please take a stand not only for yourself but also for your kids. Don’t let toxic people ruin you life. Rather pick up your courage and show the world what you are capable of.
At IFORHER, we are in awe of this mother’s inspiring struggle of raising two kids on her own. We hope her story will inspire many more to fight back their life circumstances and create a life that they deserve. We wish her strength and power to fight back and hope you would too.
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