Our patriarchal society keeps telling women to have kids as soon as possible otherwise we will run out of time. Many times, even when a woman doesn’t feel ready to be a mom, she succumbs to the societal pressure because it is better to have it now than never.
Though we completely understand that there is an age when our body might be in a better state than any other time to handle the physical stress of motherhood, what we forget is that motherhood isn’t just about physical fitness.
It is also about mental readiness as well as financial condition. This ensures motherhood is healthy, happy, and stress-free for women.
There are so many of us who want to have a second child, but sometimes, we are not financially or emotionally ready. But many of us find ourselves prisoner of becoming a mother by a society defined right age. And end up putting ourselves under a lot of financial and emotional pressure.
Recently, Mona Singh spoke about how she married Shyam Gopalan at the age of 39 but she had frozen her eggs at 34 to get rid of the pressure of becoming a mom!
“We are living in a new world where there is no age to get married. I was in no rush. I feel this was the best age for me to get married because a person is more evolved, experienced and has seen his/her share of ups and downs, and you know that this (marriage) is important and this should stay. You get married now because you want to and because you think it is time to get married.”
She further added:
“I have frozen my eggs and now I am free. I did that at the age of 34. Because I have gotten married now, I want to chill with my partner and travel the world with him. I haven’t done that yet. I have always travelled with my family or friends. I want to do that with my husband now and it is a different feeling now — going for walks, getting all the attention, keeping Karwa Chauth vrat – all this is so nice. Even though I love kids, if you ask me now, I am not mentally prepared to have one. Later in life, I would definitely think about it,”
“My mother was so happy when she heard about my decision to freeze my eggs. We both went to my gynaecologist in Pune and I had to take a few months break from work as the process involves a lot of mood swings. It took about 5 months for the process and now, as I said, I am free.”