Doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman, smoking and drinking alcohol is injurious to health! Who wouldn’t agree?
But no one can deny the double standards of our society on how we treat our men who drink and smoke vis-a-vis women, who do the same.
For men, the practice of drinking alcohol and smoking, impact health. But for women, it has an impact on their character too. We don’t wait a second before labeling a woman as characterless or a ‘bad woman’ or a ‘bad girl’ if she drinks or smoke.
Avery similar incident happened with the celebrity Shveta Salve.
Jhalak Dikhhla Jaa Season 1 runner-up, Shveta was blamed by the trolls for setting a bad example for her two-year-old daughter by smoking and drinking.
It all happened when Shveta posted her vacation pics on Instagram. She was seen smoking with a glass of wine.
And, then within no time, she was labeled as a bad mom.
To address the matter, Shveta hit back with a long message that said:
“A Day off Looks something like this. Yes, I Drink and Smoke. I am real, honest and basic like that. It has to be of no reason that anyone ever judge me for the person I am or the Mommy I am. I don’t propagate it and neither do I question anyone else who does, so I would respect the same back.
“Today I got a few random DM’s by totally random people about my actions, and I usually let such things go pass me but for some reason today I felt like addressing it. How does this make me a bad person or a bad mom?? Do you see me wasting my Life? Do you see me sitting unemployed and jobless? Do you see me neglecting my child?
I work, I work multiple jobs, I’m an actor, dancer, an entrepreneur. I successfully live in two major cities of our glorious country. I have beautiful friends whom I love and I know who love me back for the person I am. Risking the fact that I might sound aggressive, don’t ever question my abilities of being a bad example to my child!!”
Shveta also brought up a very valid question about whether the profession of sex workers makes them unfit to parent their children:
“So tell me does an honest sex worker who sells her body to feed her family, to maybe get an education or to provide a life for her children is a Bad Person? A Bad Mother? A stigma to society? Who are you and I to Judge?? My parents taught me well and exposed me to the good and evil of everything.
They smoked and drank too but they did a mighty fine job of raising my brother and I. As children we knew that this was not something we could practice until a certain age. And that too if we ever wanted to, a choice that we were allowed to take as adults.”
Shveta ended her message by saying,
“Today I share a drink with them and celebrate the fact that they gave me a fabulous childhood n Life and I aspire to do the same with my Baby. I don’t pay for likes and followers, you choose to follow me for who I am. And hence what you see is me being me and you always have the option to unfollow me 🙂 Live and Let Live… this rant has gotten me all irked so I’m gonna go pour myself a red and light up #micdrop #bekindtooneanother #peaceout”.
We don’t want to argue whether drinking alcohol or smoking makes a woman a bad mom or not. But we do want to argue why it is only women who are called bad moms for drinking alcohol or smoking. Why men don’t have to go through the same scrutiny as dads.