Doesn’t matter how much Indian moms do for their kids and families, our patriarchal society will always find a way to pull them down?
If you feel this doesn’t hold true for you, then let us break the good news – YOU ARE VERY LUCKY!
Unlike you, many Indian moms have been put under the constant pressure of being judged for the decisions they make for their kids. And, doesn’t matter how great they are as a mother, they will always be criticized.
It’s not new for a society to criticize a woman when she tries to build a support system to help her in raising a child. Whether it is about a decision to send a kid to playschool or about hiring a nanny or a maid, moms are criticized and tagged as bad moms.
Recently, we were shocked when even a celebrity like Kareena Kapoor was not spared. She was shamed because her kid, Taimur Ali Khan, has been accompanied by a nanny since his birth.
During her radio show, What Women Wants, Kareena opened about people shaming moms :
“I have to address one thing… recently I got trolled on a photo where I was getting into a private jet…”
“And the trolling was about how apparently, I’m a careless mother who’s letting my kid be brought up by nannies.”
But she gave the best reply to those people and we couldn’t stop applauding her courage:
“To you judgemental folks who know nothing about my life, please note that there’s a finger I’m showing you in my mind right now.”
Kareena is a celebrity. She has multiple channels – a radio program, a TV interview and more – to raise her voice against the nagging voices of society that is pulling her down and accusing her of being a bad mom.
But, what about you and me?
We are not a celebrity. We don’t have many options to raise our voices against the nagging voices of our colleagues, friends or family members, who keep criticizing or shaming the decisions that we have taken for our kids.
“Your kid has not started speaking yet. You need to focus on your kid.”
“How could you give preference to your career over your baby? You can’t be so selfish.”
“How could you think about leaving your job for a baby? Where is the ambitious lady in you gone?”
“She’s already lost her baby weight? She must be neglecting her baby to work out” or “She still hasn’t lost her baby weight?”
“She sends her baby to daycare on Fridays even though she doesn’t work – how could she?”
We stand with all the moms who were shamed for their parenting skills. And, we want to tell all the people who believe in judging moms –
It’s their kid, not yours!
Their kid is their business, none of yours!
In case you have been mom-shamed by your family or friends, share your story and we will publish it on I FOR HER.