They are “the” life-long friend, who will always stand by you through the thick and thin. And, for me, my younger brother has been much more than my closest buddy. He has been my agony aunt, my husband’s best companion, and my parents’ reason to live a little more.
As he is getting married soon, the only wish that I have is –
“Bhagwan iski hasi ko kissi ki nazar na lage”
And, I bet if you are a sister, you would exactly know how I feel at this moment.
But I do know a lot of things would change for me too after his marriage. Though today, my mother and I are the most important women in my brother’s life, after two days the girl sitting kilometers away will become his life.
And, my best friend feels I will not be very comfortable with this change and neither would be my mom. She feels I may have insecurities as I would not stay that important to my brother anymore.
But, honestly, that’s not what is bothering me.
I am worried about this young girl who will be starting her new life in a new place in a new home with new people with new customs. She will be new to everything in the very same way I was when I got married.
But more than that, what worries me is – how to support my sister-in-law to become comfortable in the family post-marriage.
This thought made me jot down my feelings in this letter for her. I’m sharing after seeking her permission in the hope that all the new brides would be welcomed in their new house with more love and empathy.
As you are entering into the new phase of your life, I understand you must be troubled by a cocktail of emotions!
On one side, you must be in a lot of pain as you would be leaving your parent’s house on the other you must be anxious about how you would need to make adjustment in your new home.
If you are worried about us, then I suggest you relax.
And, you know why?
#Because You Are Not The Other Daughter
As soon as my parents fixed this match, they already created the place for you in our family. So, you don’t worry about creating a place for yourself.
Because you are not the other daughter for them. You are now the daughter for them.
#We Will Ditch The Word ‘in-Law’
People ask their daughter-in-law to leave a lot of things as she enters into a new family. We too will ask that. It is neither your surname, nor your dreams or passions, nor your job, nor your identity.
It is just the word ‘in-law’.
Take that out from relations. Life will be smoother and easier.
#Now I Am Not Only My Brother’s Sister
Yes, you heard it right. I am your sister too. As much as I will pray for his wellbeing I will pray for yours too. Anytime, you feel clouds of darkness surround you or something troubles you, don’t hesitate to call me. I will always be a call away.
#Because Your Happiness Is Our priority
Smile more than you smile now. Laugh harder than you laugh now. And spread happiness more than you spread now. There won’t be any parameters or restrictions. Being the youngest one in the family, you would get all our love and care.
#Your Parents Are Not Losing A Daughter. They Are Getting A Son
Yes bhabhi, don’t worry about them. My parents will be the best companion your parents will ever get. And like you are an integral part of my family, my brother will become yours. It is his duty to take care of uncle and aunty.
So, be ready to be pampered and loved.
Now, just give yourself a break and enjoy one of the most beautiful moments of your life.
We all love you and are waiting to fill the last vacant chair of our dining table.
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