More than men, it’s women who ill-treat other women. And, this is the ugly reality of our society. While men support other men, women leave no chance to tear down other women! Being a strong believer in sisterhood and womanhood, I was deeply disappointed when my own sister-in-law left no chance to humiliate me; to embarrass me; to control me!
Raised without a sister, I tried hard to treat my husband’s sister as my own. While I was showering her with all the love, attention and care, she was leaving no chance to make me look bad in the eyes of my husband and other family members. I tried really hard to be loved by her. But, with time, I realized that whatever I do, she will never ever accept me.

From making fun of my family to calling me an idiot to making me feel sorry about my focus on my career, my sister-in-law left no chance to break me. Knowing how much I love my job, she made sure that my in-laws and husband force me to quit my job. When I refused to quit, she not only bad-mouthed me but also made sure that she turns everyone against me.
From shaming my parents for being middle class to calling me stupid, she made sure that she poked her nose in my every life matter.
But, what made me even more disappointed was the fact that she felt so insecure about other woman’s presence in his brother’s and parent’s life that she was ready to damage her own brother’s marriage. She was ready to go to any extreme to hurt me just because she felt threatened!
On different occasions, I tried hard to convey it to her politely that she doesn’t need to control my life decisions; I tried hard to tell her to stop judging my every life decisions; I tried hard to tell her to treat me the way she wants me to treat her! But, all my efforts were in vain. After countless attempts, I told my dramatic sister-in-law, that we need to stop talking to each other; that she needs to stop controlling my life; that she needs to stop poisoning my husband against me; that she needs to stop turning everyone against me!
Thanks to my sister-in-law’s insecurities, we have reached a point that we don’t speak to each other. The relationship that could have been so beautiful was broken for life just because of my her insecurities.
But, that’s not just about my sister-in-law. Many women are so under-confident that they feel insecure in the presence of other women. They feel so threatened about their place in the family, they tend to abuse other women. That’s the reason why so many mothers-in-law make the life of daughters-in-law difficult or vice-versa; the reason why so many women refuse to support other women professionally!
Till the day women don’t stand for each other; till the day they feel insecure of other women; till the day they tend to control other women, we can’t move forward as a community. I wish women would realize it, before its too late!