Dear Mummy,
While many women are struggling in their marriage because of their controlling mothers-in-law, I want to tell you how blessed I am to have you in my life. Thank you for raising your son into this perfect gentleman that any woman would feel lucky to be his wife. I am not only in love with your son but in love with you too!
In the world, where many mothers-in-law fall into trap of controlling their daughters-in-law; ruining their marriage; I am blessed to have you who has never treated me any less than her own son.
So, here is a short thank you note to the one who has shattered the society’s norm of mother-in-law and showed it to the world that mothers-in-law can be as loving as mothers if they want to!
It is quite inspiring how when the whole world was asking you about my pregnancy plans, you were telling those voices to mind their own business! It is heart-touching how on my birthdays, you bake a cake of my favorite flavor and then push your son to take me out on a fancy date!Â
It is so heart-warming that when society was complaining to you about me not helping you in household chores, you were proudly applauding my promotion to shut them down!
When my own parents refused to understand why it was important for me to take up a foreign assignment for two years, it was you who came to my rescue! It was you who stood by my decision and explained to my parents how it was important for my career for which I have worked so hard!
When I became the mother, you made sure that I don’t have to struggle between my professional dreams and personal goals. Even when the distant relatives told you to ask me to quit my job because I should be focusing on motherhood, you took a firm stand and said:
“When my son could be a good father without quitting his job then why not my daughter-in-law! We as a family are here to support her!”
When my father got sick and you made sure that our whole family stood by me as I was taking care of my father touched my heart so much. You showed me what happens when daughters-in-law are really accepted as daughters.
Unlike many of my friends’ mother-in-law, it is quite amazing how Instead of gossiping and complaining, you chose to invest yourself in creativity. When my colleagues’ mothers-in-law spend time scheming against their daughter-in-law, you invest your time in cracking new recipes, creating new paintings, and building a beautiful garden.
It is amazing how you taught your son to never feel entitled enough to depend on a woman for doing things for him, as long as he could do it on his own. It is so inspiring how you have no cinch of desire to control your son’s life or my life!
You are a staunch feminist, who not only raised a strong daughter but also made sure that you empower your daughter-in-law too!Â
It is amazing how you encouraged me to make my financial decisions on my own. You inspired me to start learning how to manage my investments. You encouraged me to learn about mutual funds and the stock market! You always made it a point to celebrate the smallest of my achievements!
When I struggled in the kitchen, you patiently guided me each time without taunting me how I even didn’t know how to do basic cooking!
Even in the moments when you criticized me, you inspired me to be a better human being!
You always made sure that your son never takes me for granted. I still remember how you told me that you were so happy to get another daughter in your life. And, even after 5 years of marriage, you make sure that you treat me like your daughter every moment!
I may not be born into your family, but you made sure that I am treated no less. Thanks for being my mother, my friend, my role model and so much more!
In this world, we need more women like you so that women can start supporting each other behind four walls! Thanks, Mummy for being the woman of substance that our society needs! Thanks for being you!
Love,
Your Biggest Fan & Your Daughter