Dear Indian In-laws, Why do we hate our daughter-in-law so much, especially the strong ones! The ones who know their worth; the ones who stand for their dignity; the ones who know their rights and refuse to be treated like a doormat. We as a society, hate such women.
Even, when these women try to seek happiness in their marriage, we tend to label them! We call them names! We insult them or blame them.
“She is a home-breaker! She is a woman with no sanskaar! She doesn’t have the right values! She is so disrespectful! She has so many nakhras! She is so moody and always crying to seek attention!“
Basically, we make a Villain out of her just because she wanted to seek happiness as a wife.
We are fine as long as she spends time doing home chores. But, the issue starts when she starts demanding happiness as a wife.
As a wife, she deserves to be with her husband as long as she wants. As a life partner, she deserves the right over her husband’s time. But, when she attempts to do so, we call her home breaker. We accuse her of stealing our son!
Though we take her away from her family and her parents, we hardly make her our own. While she makes a lot of attempts to be part of our family, we hardly make any. Rather, we tend to make her feel alone in her new life. When she asks for a bit of love, we blamed her for seeking attention, for being dramatic, for being emotional!
Whenever we get a chance, we find flaws in her – we tell her she is too demanding; she is too sensitive; she is too dramatic. We insult her and make sure that she understands that she is less worthy of us! That she is asking too much when she demands the love, time, and respect from her husband and his family!
We make a villain out of her for no fault of hers
When she stands for herself, her dignity, and her rights, we detest her. When she reminds us how we are mistreating her, we blame her for expecting too much. When she pursues her dream, we label her as being selfish. When she asks for equality, we make her feel guilty for standing for herself!
It breaks my heart, how we hate our daughter-in-law for demanding what is their own. How we shame them for standing for themselves. How we make them villains when they are no less than heroes!
A woman, who was made to feel like a villain, for asking for happiness as a wife!