This open letter captures the pain of a daughter, who hasn’t been able to hug her parents from the past 4 months. Through her heart-touching letter, she wants people to count their blessings if they are staying with their parents during these tough times.
If you are one of those, who are blessed to be with your parents during this lockdown, then count yourself lucky. Please don’t crib that you are bored being with them, because many of us would do anything to trade our places with you.
Being someone, who is stuck for 4 months away from her parents because of a couple of unavoidable reasons, I feel heartbroken when my friends tell me they feel stuck living with their parents. They feel their freedom is lost. Because they can’t do things that they want to or the way they want to.
I do understand the pain that my friends are talking about, but living under the constant fear of not being around of your parents, when they may need you the most is even worse. Living without the freedom to meet them or hug them pains even more than changing our routine or habits as per them or answer their endless questions.
There may be times when you would like to think about how life could have been easier living alone, but sadly, here’s my quick list of why you are in a better position living with your family in these times. This list is based on my 4-months experience of being away from my parents. These are the moments that hurt me the most that I wasn’t with my parents.
#1: Filling Deafening Silence With Love
When the sunlight starts fading away, and the night brings deafening silence, you need someone to fill that silence with endless laughter, words, and love. Whose voice can be more comforting than our parents’?
Even if you are with your partner, you would still feel to hear their comforting voice or feel their presence around you. Because in the end, who understands our fear better than our parents.
#2: When Everything Loses Meaning
In today’s tough situation, when everything looks meaningless – our career, our vacation plans, our hangout plans, we need your parents to hug us and remind us what really matters! It’s neither our job nor our marks but our relationships that are our true assets!
#3: Fear Of Losing Them
When some days you hear the scary facts of how old people are at higher risk of contracting the disease, you find yourself covered under this unsaid fear. The fear of not being around your parents; the fear of losing them. This may be the toughest pain to handle if you are being alone.
But when you are with your parents, things might look difficult but definitely less painful.
#4: When Loneliness Hits You Hard
There are dark times when even you are surrounded by people but you still feel lonely. Because during that time, your heart doesn’t want to be surrounded by those, who judge you or bitch about you or find endless flaws in you.
You want to be with those who accept you as a whole. For most of us, those are our parents who raised us, who have given us love unconditionally.
#5: The Times When Unpredictability Of Future Hits You
The current times are as complex as it can get. In those moments, you realize how the only thing you want at that moment is to see your parents just once. Because you don’t know how long things will take to be normal. And, what would be the new normal?
I am aware everyone has different life experiences, and you may or may not agree with what I feel. But, I hope my pain makes you consider yourself a bit lucky if you are with those people, who love you unconditionally!
I pray for all those souls, who are far away from their parents and miss them miserably. I hope you would soon get to meet your parents and hug them tightly! Till then don’t let the negative energy suck away shine, optimism, and positivity.