Recently, a matrimonial ad about a woman in her 70s seeking a husband triggered debate and discussion. As per the reports, the ad was published by a 73-year-old retired teacher in Mysore.
In the advertisement, the woman sought an alliance from any healthy man older than her, and mandatorily a Brahmin, of her community. She said she is leading a lonely life and looking for a “Jeevana Sangati”.
In her interview with ToI, she mentioned:
“I don’t have a family of my own. My parents are no more. My first marriage ended in divorce. I fear staying alone. Thoughts that I may fall at home and fail to get help, or fear of walking home from the bus stop have led me to look for a life partner.”
She also mentioned how her earlier marriage and divorce was a painful experience. The pain and agony prevented her from thinking about marriage all these years. And, as she is looking for an alliance now, she makes it clear that more than a marriage and spouse in the traditional sense, she is looking for someone who could be a “companion” and stay with her for the rest of her life.
The advertisement widely shared on social media received applause from youth who said her bold decision would break cultural stereotypes in society. While many cheered her boldness and positive attitude, others gave her the advisory to be cautious against frauds.
While talking about loneliness and neglect in the elderly age, Raveesh BN, a psychiatry professor, said:
“Today, there is no joint family. The mental health of people is deteriorating and causing issues.”
He further adds:
“The ad should be an eye-opener for society where the elderly are often neglected, and loneliness becomes a factor with increasing age.”
At IFORHER, we are in awe of this brave courageous woman and her attempt to find a companion at an age that our society may not approve of. Her dare to lead a life on her own terms is the inspiration for millions who are scared to create a life that they want, out of fear of ‘log kya kahengey’.
