Times have changed and so have the expectations from relationships and marriages. Marriages in today’s era are nothing close to what our parents had! I still remember how my mother sacrificed everything – her career, her life, her happiness for sake of papa and our happiness. She fuelled our hope, dreams and aspirations while she burnt down hers! She remained emptied so that we can lead a fulfilled life. And, I am sure your mother would have done the same for you and your father!
But Gaurav, things have changed now. Marriages are no longer biased! They are turning into equal partnerships where men and women hold their hands and move forward to fulfil their dreams.
We are called life partners for a reason. We may complement each other in some aspects but are equal in every right. We shall both be equal human beings, parents, and partners in crime.
Sadly, today’s marriage is not what the media and society stereotypically describe or what our parents have shown us. Unlike our parents, where our fathers dictated most of the family decisions, in our marriage, we have to be equal. We have to take important decisions together and share as many responsibilities as we can. So, please remember that you are my equal. I am not superior to you and neither are you to me.
Being equal, I would expect you not to wait for me to clean dishes, as I won’t wait for you to bring groceries. I would give respect to your dreams, but I would also expect you to give respect to my dreams. I would give you emotional support and comfort and I would expect you to give it to me when I need it! I would respect your parents but would expect you to respect mine!
There would be times when you would expect me to sacrifice my dreams and my happiness like your mother did! You would expect me to be as selfless as your mom and give up on my personal goals to fulfil yours.
But, in those moments you will be sad and heartbroken! Because I won’t. Don’t get me wrong. I really love you. You mean the world to me, but my world does not revolve around you. I really love you with all my heart and trust you with my life.
But I want you to understand that our lives go beyond each other. We have our own families, friends, careers, and so on. I hope you respect that sometimes you will not be my top-priority and accept that it is for good reason. I am your wife and soul mate, but I want to be so much more.
Unlike many Indian men, hope you won’t attempt to cage me! Hope you won’t attempt to shatter my wings just because I am a wife and wives are born to sacrifice. Many wives sacrifice their whole life to ensure the happiness and success of their husbands without expecting anything in return. But, sadly I am not like that. I expect equality in our marriage. I know only a strong man can handle a strong woman and you are no less strong than any superhero!
Let’s fly together and show the world how our equal marriage has two heroes!