Family or politics – the ugly choice that many households make every day. While it may look obvious that people will choose family over politics any day, vice versa happens in most cases. Many people, to feel better about themselves or satisfy their insecurities, choose dirty politics and land up breaking their own families.
In my own life, I have seen so many people breaking their own families for playing politics. They would create issues between their own son and daughter-in-law or among their daughters-in-law or between their sister and daughter-in-law or much more!
But, this makes me wonder why would people choose dirty politics over their family? Why would we choose hate over love? Why would we choose to break our own family rather than build it up?
Families are supposed to be great – Places where you get support, love, warmth, closure, concern, and friendships that are not obligated to any judgments. But it is heart-breaking how some families, rather than being home to their family members, turn into this shady place of politics, where they make unscrupulous strategies to belittle one other or make an unfair comparison between the family members or make groups to isolate some! While the family is expected to save and protect each other, it is heart-breaking how some are ready to go to any extreme to hurt other family members!
Family politics is no less than a disease that rots a family one day at a time. And with time, it breaks family and people involved in it.
Families suffering from family politics shows many signs. Some of them are – Open comparisons or importance basis who earns more or making someone else feel small or a left-out or having different rules for different people. It can also include attacking or insulting one person to make someone else feel more secure.
I have been a victim of family politics, where my in-laws took steps that broke up their own family. They spent 30 years of their life building a family to support their kids and it took them 5 years of politics to rip it apart. Doesn’t matter how much they blame me or their son for leaving the house, it was their family politics that tore our family down! Their desire to make me feel like an outsider or fill my husband’s ears against me to make themselves feel secure about their son ruined everything!
I wish they could have seen how family politics made them feel important for some time, but in the end, it broke their family or ruined the glue that was holding it together.
I wish they had disengaged themselves from the negative behaviour of family politics. The addictive drug of family politics made them feel really good about themselves in the short term but in the long run, it left them alone to fight their battles. I wish they could have felt more secure about my presence in their family! I wish they could have understood how their politics was hurting me, their son and other people around us!
As I am building my own family, I make it a point to protect my family from the menace of family politics; I make sure that we manage our emotions so well that they never control us to break our family!
I wish I could tell every person, who is engaged in family politics – Don’t break your family over politics! Stop choosing dirty politics over family love! Because it’s only family that stands by you when things get tough; not family politics.