We have so much hope from you. You are one of the key pillars, who could create a better society for women.
It is heartbreaking how even in the 21st-century women have to face so much social inequality not only outside their homes but in their marriages too! It is disgusting to be treated less by the very same person who promised us to be our partner for the rest of our lives!
We were already broken by the society treating us less than men at whatever we do, but it is beyond words to be treated less in our own marriage by the men we love so much!
But, that’s not it. It shatters us when our parents, who raised us to be strong and independent, are treated less. It hurts when we are told that our parents shouldn’t matter to us anymore. It breaks us when we are told that our parents are lesser than your parents!
It’s Enough & We Can’t Take It Anymore
It’s not okay treated less in our own marriage. It’s not okay to be treated as secondary after marriage. It’s enough of treating us and our parents lesser just in the name of traditions and regressive norms.
There are so many women who were raised to be strong and independent women, but find themselves feeling suffocated in the marriage. They suffer silently and keep their mouths shut when they and their parents are treated disrespectfully. They tell themselves it is okay to be treated lesser by their in-laws; They stay shut when a random relative make fun of them or their parents; They are told how they are less, how they are not enough; how they and their parents don’t meet up the expectations of their in-laws and they are told to be okay with it in name of tradition.
It breaks our heart that when an educated family like yours, treats us and our parents so inappropriately, you stand and witness the whole drama without saying a word.
Dear Modern Men, please step up! If we need to make a better and equal world for our sons and daughters, you can’t stay silent when we are treated less.
We expect you to be better than the earlier generations of men; we expect you to be our supporter when we raise our voice for ourselves; we expect you to stand by us in our fight to be treated equally by your parents and society!
We don’t want you to stay silent when you see your parents treat us lesser or when we are told to give up on our dreams just because we are women!
We don’t want you to join forces with the people who are trying to shatter our confidence and pride just to please their shallow egos.
When we are treated like maids or nannies in front of you, we want you to take a stand for us to be treated like a family!
We don’t want you to tell us that we need to fight for ourselves. Because, being a life partner, this battle of our equality and dignity is as much yours as it is ours!
Don’t let us fight this battle alone; Don’t let us feel ashamed or lesser in our marriage; Don’t let the society tell us that women are lesser than men; We need you to stand for us; to treat us equal.
Because we are not okay being treated less anymore! We are not okay with an unequal status because neither we nor our parents deserve to be treated lesser.
If you can’t treat us like an equal; if you can’t treat our parents like yours; if you can’t ensure equality and dignity in our marriage; please don’t marry!