In the midst of negativity around us, this positive thread of Indian men talking about their wives keeping their maiden surname would touch your heart.
Recently, a wildlife photographer Sagar initiated an interesting Twitter thread. He started a rich discussion on women choosing to keep their maiden surnames post-marriage by giving the example of his own wife.
My wife didn’t change her last name post marriage & I never had a problem with that. In fact her identity was restored for what she worked very hard for. She is more successful than me & I am super proud of her. She zoomed past my accomplishments post marriage. Whats your story?— Sagar (@sagarontheright) October 17, 2020
Many husbands further joined the conversation with the stories of their wives and their daughters turning this thread into a positive and inspiring discussion.
Same here, my wife hasn’t changed her name or surname! Neither me nor my parents ever asked !!— Sreenivas Bidari???????? (@BidariSreenivas) October 18, 2020
I and my family are pure veg, but nobody stopped her from cooking or eating non veg
My wife dont have a second name since beginning. All her IDs have single first name which remained the same after marriage.— Zaffar (@Zaffar_Nama) October 18, 2020
Last year I did not get salary for more than 6 months, it was her who took care of the expenses. Beat this now ????
My wife didn’t change her name. Our son has got his surname from his mother. Both the families had reservations about our boy inheriting her surname. I defended our decision.
She has higher educational degree than me, and used to earn more than me till start of 2019.— अमरजीत (Amarjeet) (@PaneerSamosa) October 18, 2020
My wife hasn’t changed her last name. She is more successful than me. Worked for one of the biggest pharma companies as Statistical DataSciences general manager for nearly 20 years. Xtremely proud of her and support her future endeavors.— Shashank Iyengar #IndianArmedForcesTheBestEver (@IyengarShashank) October 18, 2020
Same! She never changed her last name,has always been very successful in her career, consistently been the higher earner & 13 yrs later is still my best friend!— Abhishek Paul (@abhishekp3117) October 18, 2020
We got married very young so only prob was checking into a hotel with different last names.. lots of raised eyebrows ????
Same with us. My wife didn’t change her surname & it should never be imposed on them. Our little one carries both our surnames. So he is carrying his Nanke & dadke.— PeGayaSaiyaapa (@GauravV1j) October 18, 2020
Even my wife didn’t. And I didnt mind when people sometimes addressed me as Mr.Sengupta (my wife’s surname)!!— Sourav Bhoumik ???????? (@cdsourav) October 18, 2020
It creates some confusion, but mostly, I feel it is correct. Why should women have to suffer the plight of getting documents changed after marriage?
Why change a name after marriage? It’s nothing but https://t.co/PlD29nj1Lj wife hasn’t changed her name. I respect her. She has a career and I am proud of her.— MANJUNAT (@AManjunath26) October 18, 2020
Even many women came forward to share the stories of their moms, daughters, and even themselves, who have kept their maiden name after marriage.
I didn’t change my surname either, for us it was as normal as my husband not changing his. There was no question about it. In my practice now I see more & more couples where wife has retained her maiden surname & I love the fact that it’s normalising now. It’s all about choice.— Dr Sulbha KG Arora (@SulbhaArora) October 18, 2020
Super !! Best wishes to you Sagar and your smart wifey !!— nationfirst???????? (@explorediary) October 18, 2020
I haven’t changed my surname after marriage,he and his family never had a problem . I’m living my life same way as he does , we have no separate rules, raising a girl together to be a good human .
My mother did not change her last name. My parents did not add last any name to both my & my bro’s names & said-apna naam khud banao. It was my bro’s conscious choice to add my father’s surname while registering for his sec. school exams. I am married now & continue to be PURWA.— Purwa 🙂 (@Purwa18) October 18, 2020
Some women spoke of adding their husband’s surname to their existing name and a few discussed why they decided to change their surname altogether.
If we have more men like you & my husband, more women will shine.
I am where I am bcoz of his unconditional support in all my endeavours. As for success, he got feathers in his hat, I got in mine.
I proudly use his name in my name bcoz only he helped me create my own identity.— כאוטי ???????? (@MoiSherni) October 18, 2020
Retained my maiden name and added his surname too. Quit the corporate after eight successful years soon after marriage, only because he had my back. Took degrees & certification & started my ventures. If I have wings today, he’s the wind beneath them.— Neha (@itsstillneha) October 18, 2020