Every parent wants a loving, caring, and supportive husband for their daughters. They want someone who could love and support her unconditionally. But, what breaks my heart is how we want the best supportive husband for our daughter but we never let our sons be supportive husbands to their wives.
Though we want our daughters to be treated like queens, we treat someone else’s daughter as educated maids or nannies. Though we call our daughters-in-law our own daughters, we are hypocrites to have different rules for them.
We Are Blessed To Have A Supportive Son-In-Law
We want our daughters to get the best husband and family.
We want our son-in-law to love our daughter unconditionally;
We want him to take care of her till eternity;
We want him to respect her and her parents;
We want him to stand by our daughter when the world attempts to break her;
We want him to protect her against any adversities;
We want him to strive to offer the best life to our daughter.
If our son-in-law is even a cinch close to our expectations, we feel fortunate and lucky. We call ourselves “BLESSED!” to have such a supportive son-in-law!
But What About Our Sons?
Though we want our daughters to be blessed with supportive husbands, we tend to shame, insult, discourage our sons to be supportive husbands to our daughter-in-law. When our sons tend to be supportive husbands we want our sons-in-law to be, we label them as disgrace!
We call them jodu ka Ghulam!
We call them selfish and self-centered!
We blame them for forgetting their old parents!
We insult them for dancing to his wife’s tune all the time!
We blame them for being ungrateful for whatever we have done for them!
We call them weak and unmanly for supporting their wives in domestic chores.
We complain to them about how they just care about their wives and not about their parents!
In nutshell, we tend to make him look like the most horrible person around if he is sensitive to his wife!
Sadly, the discouragement from the very same people, who wanted supportive son-in-law, is the reason why so many men end up being indifferent to their wives! In their quest to be good sons, they fail to be good husbands. They are so deeply impacted by the criticism of their own parents, that they tend to blind themselves to the suffering of their wives!
It is sad how we celebrate our son-in-law for striving for happiness, love, care, and respect for our daughters, but we shame our sons when they tend to the same. This hypocrisy is the reason why so many women struggle with mental health issues like depression, anxiety, and severe trauma.
Dear Hypocrite People, please stop shaming your sons for being a real man! The day, we start celebrating our sons for being supportive, loving, and caring of our daughter-in-law, we would create a better world for everyone’s daughter!
Let’s create a world where daughters and daughter-in-law both deserve respect, love, and care!
