While many are struggling to be treated as EQUAL in marriage, we thank Kareena Kapoor & Saif Ali Khan for showing our society how to make it happen.
Recently, in one of the episodes of What Women Want, Kareena and Saif discussed different aspects of modern marriages. But, one aspect that clicked with us more than others was the sense of EQUALITY in their marriage.
Society Tells Woman To Adjust But Here’s The Problem
Many of us have been told by our parents or elders that after marriage, we would have to adjust. And, we are sure that feeling of adjustment doesn’t make marriage any easy.
However, with exposure to higher education and a global outlook, for some couples marriage is turning into an equal partnership.
What Does Equal Partnership Look Like
While talking about their equal partnership, when Kareena asked Saif if the concept of “gender-defined roles” applies to their marriage. Saif revealed what Rani Mukerji had told him once.
Recalling the piece of advice that he was given by Rani Mukherjee when he first started dating Kareena, Saif mentioned:
“She said: ‘Just behave like you are in a relationship with a man.’ I know what she meant. She meant, ‘Don’t get into the gender of it. Treat it like you got two heroes in the house. And then you’ll have no problems’. And I think she’s right.”
Further adding on how rather than gender-based roles, it is better for a couple to work as a team, Saif mentioned:
“In our case, there are certain things that you know you’re so much better organised at doing. And there are certain things that maybe I could add some value to. So, it works out like that.”
Kareena also pointed out how Saif stays at home to take care of their son, Taimur when she is busy and vice versa.
Respect In Marriage
Other than gender-neutral marriage, one more aspect that the couple spoke about was RESPECT in marriage.
When asked about one mistake that should never be done in marriage, Saif responded:
“Well, broadly speaking, disrespect and in a more specific way, don’t be unfaithful. That’s pretty much a “relationship destroyer.”
Responding to a question about what he has learned from his parent’s marriage, Saif shared a priceless relationship tip:
“You can be really different in your interests and career choices and passions, and at the same time have a really healthy relationship… You can be together… committed to each other.”
He further added:
“The main thing I learnt is to respect your partner’s life, without trying to take it over. “
At IFORHER, we couldn’t agree more with Saif Ali Khan. And, hope his thoughts would inspire many more husbands to bring equality and respect to their modern-day marriage.