“Raghav, how could you say that I haven’t done anything for you or your family? How could you say I am not a good wife or a daughter-in-law after doing so much for you? How could you call me selfish when all that I have done for this family is sacrifice?”, I told my husband!
“Seema, forget it! I was angry. I didn’t mean it. They are just words. Just forget what I said”, my husband said to me!
When you love someone to such an extent that you are ready to commit yourself fully to that one person, you are left hurt when he says words that not only break your heart but also shatter your confidence.
And, here I am writing a letter to one such person, my husband. But the words that he said maybe just words to him but they were no less than the knives piercing my self-respect and our marriage.
Do you ever wonder how much your words hurt me sometimes? How they leave me shattered and disturbed? For you, they might be just words but sadly, they are not just words. They have the power to leave my soul wounded!
It breaks me how you turn my simple requests and suggestions into arguments. And, then after every argument, you ask me to forget what you said. But, how could I forget the fact that you refuse to see how much I have done for you and your family? How could I forget that when I asked you to stand for my self-respect, you called me an ungrateful and self-centered beast? How could I forget rather than protecting my self-respect you shattered it every time I thought as a husband you will stand for me atleast once? How could I forget you called me names when I only asked for respect?
It’s very easy for you to say that they are just words. And, how you didn’t mean it? It’s easy for you to ask me to forget what you said because “insaan gusse mein cheezein bol jaata hai” (because in anger we all say things).
For you, they are just words. But for me, they are no less than any knives that kill my confidence and reduce my respect and love for you.
You may not be able to see the wounds that your words have caused, but these invisible wounds pain as much as a physical injury. What is more hurtful is the fact that it comes from the same person whom I love so much; for whom I am ready to fight the whole world.
I wish you could have understood how your words are hurting me. Though we promised that we can tell anything to each other, now I think a thousand times before speaking my mind.
As a life partner, aren’t we supposed to protect each other? Aren’t we supposed to make our marriage stronger? Should we be afraid to tell each other what we think and feel? Shouldn’t we build each other rather than tearing the other person down!
I love you! But I can’t take it anymore! Hope you would understand how words are not just words but have much more power to build or damage people. Will you build me while I build you? While I make our marriage stronger, will you too?