“You are so lucky to have him. He is such a supportive friend. He is always there for me.”
“You are so lucky to have him, he is such a dedicated and committed employee. He is so dependable!”
“You are so lucky to have my Bhai in your life. He is such a loving and understanding person.”
“You are blessed to have my son as a life partner. He is so perfect! You won’t find a better person than him!”
From being an obedient son to a perfect friend to a dependable team member, my husband is one of the most charming people you will ever come across in your entire life.
He can do anything for his parents and sisters. He makes sure that he is always there for his friends and he can go to any extreme to make sure his professional commitments are fulfilled.
My husband is a kind of person – whom you definitely want to be in your life – as a friend, as a colleague, as a son, as a brother. But believe me, definitely not as a husband!
In midst of so many people applauding him for being who is, there is one person who always comes last on my husband’s priority list and that’s his wife – ME. My happiness and desires are always sacrificed for others and I wonder why?
Why do I come last on his priority list, when he comes first on mine?
Why does he sacrifice my happiness and time for his parents, boss, friends, and many more?
Why does every relationship matter to him except our marriage?
My husband has made sure that he has a wonderful life outside our marriage. The life where he is a perfect man – who stands for people during their tough time, who supports them in achieving their goals, and who is always there for them when they need him.
Who would have issues with this kind of man? Who won’t feel blessed to have him in his life? The answer is – I don’t.
It took me 10 years to come to the terms that I am not selfish or self-centered if I don’t feel blessed to have this awesome man in my life. And before you judge me, here’s why:
My husband is the best and the truest friend one can ask for.
Once my husband stood for his friend when his whole family asked him to give up on his dream of acting. He stood by him like a rock. But the same man told me to give up my dreams so that his parents feel comfortable!
While my husband may not take his wife to a planned anniversary trip citing a busy schedule but will surely make time to attend a friend’s sister’s wedding. Even if that means he has to spend exorbitantly on flight tickets. Because for him, friendship stands above his own marriage.
My husband is the most dedicated employee and a team member that you can find:
For my husband, being an effective team player is so important that he chooses to spend long hours at the office, rather than spending time with his ailing wife, who was hospitalized!
It is important for my husband to be with his team whenever they need him. So, when he chose to be with his colleague, who has been dumped by her boyfriend rather than spending time with me on my birthday, I was expected not to complain! Because in the end, being a team player is more important than being a husband!
My husband is the most devoted brother
While he supported his sisters to go abroad for higher education, he told me to give up on all the foreign assignments because who would take care of his parents. He is such a devoted brother that he will believe his sisters more than his wife. He has vowed to take care of all their needs even if he has to sacrifice his wife’s needs.
My husband is the most obedient son, you can think of!
While he took care of his parents, he made sure that his wife sacrifices her own happiness for them. He made sure that his wife ignores their abuse and bow down to their regressive thinking!
He is so loyal to his parents that he can even stop talking to his wife just because she answered back to his parents and asked them to stop endless taunts and criticism. He is such an obedient son, that when his wife was insulted by his parents, he remained shut but when his wife spoke back, he told her that she has lost all his respect and support.
While everyone believes my husband is the best person one can ever meet, I disagree. His kindness, care, and love for others are built on the endless sacrifices that I made as a wife. While he may be applauded for being there for everyone, he was never there for me when I needed him.
So dear husband, while the whole world may celebrate you as a HERO and choose to blind themselves to the sacrifices that I made as a wife, I want to tell you that you are definitely not my HERO!