It is sad how even in the 21st century many Indian households control their sons and daughters. Not only do they control their choices of career, but also of their life partners too. Indian families forbid their kids from dating as they tend to have strong say on who their sons and daughters should marry. The youngsters are put under so much family pressure, that a lot of them tend to break up with their girlfriends and boyfriends under it. They feel so helpless because of emotional blackmail and family pressure that they tend to marry those chosen by the elders.
Recently, a Reddit user asked Indian men, who left their girlfriend to marry the woman of their parents’ choice, how their married life has turned out!
“Do you feel any sense of agency and control in your life by now? Are you attracted to the woman your parents chose for you? Do you think of other women in your arranged marriage? Any regrets or resentment towards the old relationship with ex, current relationship with wife, or current state of affairs/relationship with your parents? Have you sought out emotional or physical affairs? If so, why? Is divorce an option for a chance for you to be actually happy?” the user asked.
Have a look at the full post here:
Addressing the post, one Indian man shared his heartbreaking story of marrying his parents’ choice after being forced to leave his girlfriend.
“Initially I felt like a loser (which I was). After the breakup, I went through a period of angst and realized my mom basically emotionally blackmailed me. Yes, the attraction and understanding took time to build up. It kinda helped that she was also forced to break up with her bf, so we kind of understood where we had come from. I would be lying if I said that I didn’t think about my ex or other potential women I had met with before I got married,” he wrote.
Some more netizens shared.
Someone gave really awesome advice to dating men and women:
Love marriage or arrange marriage is a never ending debate, but these heartbreaking stories are just another reminder that parents should stop meddling with their kids’ life. It is high time that Indian parents should stop controlling their kids and their life choices! Do let us know what you think!