Dear Daughter’s In-laws,
Gone are the days when parents told their daughters to suffer in a relationship out of fear of ‘log kya kahengey’. Gone are the days when all the burden of adjustments was put on women’s shoulders. Gone are the days when parents and their daughters would live in pain, just because they wanted to make the marriage work!
Times have changed. And, so have we! We are fine with unmarried daughters as long as they are happy! We don’t want married sad daughters who are struggling to keep everyone happy except themselves!
When we get our daughters married, we marry them to fulfill their dreams and desires. We don’t get them married to be treated like educated maids and cooks. It’s not okay that you expect our daughters to serve you like house-help. If you want someone to serve you, why get your sons married – just hire a servant.
Centuries have gone and parents like us have made sure that we educate our daughters so that they can fulfill their dreams; we have raised them to be equal to a man. But how you leave no stone unturned to make them realize that they are less than your sons, is not okay.
It’s not okay how you shatter her confidence and pick her flaws. She came to your home, not to a coaching center where people can shamelessly find flaws in her and ask her to change so that they are served better!
It is definitely not okay to separate our happy enthusiastic full of life daughter from her family in name of marriage, and then push her into stress and depression to please your insecurities.
It is definitely not okay to make our daughter feel isolated, week, lost, unloved, and disrespected. She gave up so much for you and your son. The least she deserves in return is love and respect!
It’s not okay to shatter and crush her dreams; to make her feel less about herself just because she is not your own daughter. It’s not okay to remind her how your son makes more money than her or how he is more successful than her!
It is heartbreaking how you feel it is okay to gang up against her just because she isn’t born in your family. Though she has left no stone unturned to make you her family, you still treat her like an outsider. It is not okay!
It breaks my heart how you feel it is okay to shame, abuse, break our daughters just to please your shallow egos. It is a matter of shame how parents spend their whole life building their daughter’s confidence, and then their in-laws, just for shameless family politics, shatter them and leave them broken.
We want our daughters to love you, but we want you to love them back too!
We want them to respect you, but we want you to respect them back!
We want them to take care of you, but we want you to take care of them too!
We want them to treat you like their parents, but we want you to treat them like your daughters!
As a proud parent of a daughter, here is what I want to tell every in-law who attempts to break our daughters:
Our daughters are our pride. If you can’t treat them right, please don’t get your sons married to them. We don’t want our daughters to be disrespected, hurt, left alone, and disappointed! It’s not okay to use marriage as a license to take away our happy daughters and shatter them into small pieces! IT’S NOT OKAY!
From, a proud parent of a daughter!