A New Tradition – Husband Touches Wife’s Feet To Show Mutual Respect At Wedding

If you are one of us who believe that mutual respect is the key to any successful marriage, then you will find the thoughts of a new bride – Diipa Khosla very inspiring and meaningful.

In Indian culture, we have some traditions where the bride has to touch the feet of her husband – some say to seek blessings and some say to show respect. And, many people – men and women, irrespective of their genders, have shared their sense of discomfort with this tradition.

They feel that this is a tradition that marks the inequality in the marriage or it depicts how women are held accountable for giving respect to their husbands but it is fine if husbands don’t!

When Diipa Khosla and her beau faced the same dilemma they came up with a beautiful tradition, that not only respect our tradition but also give a due share of respect to each other.

This is what Diipa shared on her Instagram:

“A few months before the wedding, when my mother told us about all the steps and beautiful ceremonies of the Indian wedding, there was one contentious point: the touching of the man’s feet at the completion of the Indian Wedding ceremony. ????????
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“Why is only the woman to touch the man’s feet?”, we asked. “Why not both touch each other’s feet in mutual respect?” Mom’s shocked large eyes gave away her thoughts about what people might say if Oleg was to touch my feet in return. All the aunties and uncles…wouldn’t they disapprove? ????
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Though Mom’s traditional Indian background did not allow her to be sure about this being a good thing, we were sure. We would both touch each other’s feet in mutual respect from woman to man, and from man to woman. From a wife to her husband, and from a husband to his wife. ????????
~
As we also decided to adopt, out of that same mutual respect, each other’s surnames. As from today onwards we are Oleg Büller-Khosla and Diipa Büller-Khosla. (whether it would be Büller first or Khosla first was still a discussion, but I let him have that one:))????♥️ #thebullslas#indianwedding

 

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A few months before the wedding, when my mother told us about all the steps and beautiful ceremonies of the Indian wedding, there was one contentious point: the touching of the man’s feet at the completion of the Indian Wedding ceremony. ???????? ~ “Why is only the woman to touch the man’s feet?”, we asked. “Why not both touch each other’s feet in mutual respect?” Mom’s shocked large eyes gave away her thoughts about what people might say if Oleg was to touch my feet in return. All the anties and uncles…wouldn’t they disapprove? ???? ~ Though Mom’s traditional Indian background did not allow her to be sure about this being a good thing, we were sure. We would both touch each other’s feet in mutual respect from woman to man, and from man to woman. From a wife to her husband, and from a husband to his wife. ???????? ~ As we also decided to adopt, out of that same mutual respect, each others surnames. As from today onwards we are Oleg Büller-Khosla and Diipa Büller-Khosla. (whether it would be Büller first or Khosla first was still a discussion, but I let him have that one:))????♥️ #thebullslas #indianwedding

A post shared by DIIPA BÜLLER-KHOSLA (@diipakhosla) on Oct 9, 2018 at 2:05am PDT

Though we do wonder why touching feet is so important in the first place. There are other beautiful gestures that one can adopt to show respect and equality in marriage.

Do let us know what you think in the comments below.

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