While no one could deny that Indian Marriages are special, there are certain things that need to change. In a popular Quora thread on Indian Marriages, someone asked: What are some harsh truth about Indian marriages? Many people came forward and dropped truth bombs about Indian Marriages. Here are some of the most powerful answers that would make you wonder isn’t it time to change!
1. Men can Marry Younger Women but Women can’t Marry Younger Men!
A 50 years old man can marry a 21 years old girl but a 36 years old woman can’t marry a 26 years old boy. (Akash Kumar)
Priyanka Chopra being 37 marrying a 27-year-old guy. – It creates a social stigma in society when a woman marries a younger man. Boney kapoor being 36 married 28 year- old Sridevi — But it is quite normal when a man marries a woman much younger than him. (Kalyani Dasari)
2. Shameless Inequality prevalent in marriage between Men and Women
Girl has to do all work inside home and outside if she has a job. Men are expected to do only outside work.
Girl has to take permission of her husband almost on everything. While husband need not take permission on everything.
In many cases girl is prone to domestic violence. But she cannot complain as she also has to think what people will say. (Udit Chhabra)
3. Marital Rapes are still Legal
Whether the girl is married or not she has all the right to choose when she wants to have sexual intercourse.
But people think husband has full right over his wife. He can do sexual intercourse whenever he wants. And society is ok with that.
There is no sound provisions in Indian Constitution for such rapes. (Udit Chhabra)
4. Unfair expectations from all the sides – groom, bride & society
Boy side demands: They want a good cook; They want a girl who never raise her voice against her mother in law or father in law. She should never disrespect her husband. Her family should bring expensive gifts when there is any function in her in laws house. Every Indian boy’s dream is to marry a girl beauty with brain . Even now beauty is topmost priority. Icing on the cake if she is working.
Girl side demands: Boy should earn well. Government job boy is always preferred. Boy should have a big house and should be rich. How much the boy earns? Decides how much money girl side is going to invest in girl’s marriage. Most Indian parent’s dream is to get a son in law working in a multinational company with NIT or IIT degree. As Medicos prefer medicos and Civil servants prefer their fraternity.
Society demands: They have all their eyes on what girl brings with her after marriage. Then her respect in her new house is determined. Girl is expected to not go to her parents’ house again and again. If girl has a job. She is termed as clever and cunning. (Udit Chhabra)
5. Illegal Dowry Practice is Still Prevalent
40 lakhs if bridegroom is an IAS officer, 30 lakhs if an IITian and 15 lakhs for other government jobs. Dowry system still exist even in 2020. (Akash Kumar)
Most Indian parents want an educated working daughter in law but with dowry .
6. Love is not important other factors are
No matter whether there is love between couple or not but relatives of both sides must love each other.
Caste, creed and colour are more important aspects for marriage than compatibility between the couple. (Akash Kumar)
7. Expensive Weddings
Everyone shows their best or beyond their capacity in terms of spending/wasting money on weddings.(Estimated wedding cost of Isha Ambani and Anand piramal was 700 crores) (Akash Kumar)
8. Divorce Is Still A Stigma
Divorce is not entertained in society. You are supposed to die in marriage but you should not divorce. You will be hated after divorce. (Akash Kumar)
Even today in our society divorced boy is accepted but divorced girl is seen as a burden on her parents and society. (Udit Chhabra)
9. Finally, no one cares about the oath and promises made during marriage
That so called ‘7 vachan’ (seven oaths) during marriage are hardly followed by anyone for a single day or say, it is too hard to follow. (Akash Kumar)
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