But, recently a video from popular travel vlogger Sujith Bhakthan has been making the rounds on Malayalam social media. Unlike his other videos on Kerala food or travel, this video is about a different yet very important social issue. He chooses to talk about how trolling, irritating and nosy comments about his wife’s (Shweta) weight need to stop.
The video discussing fatness, fat-shaming, and cruel trolls is a 55-second, Facebook live video on Sujith’s personal Facebook profile. It has been viewed over 394,100 times. One can see smiling Sujith and Shwetha against a scenic backdrop of tea plantations in Munnar, discussing these serious issues and why the inner love is more important than anything else.
In the video, Sujith mentions that many viewers in the past has passed unwanted comments on Shwetha’s weight, and points out that he too has “athyavisham thadi” ( he is also reasonably heavy), just like his wife.
This post is a great reference to how our society is trained to do gender based fat-shaming – that how do we expect women to be slim yet men can be fat or obese.
He further adds:
In the video you can see him tapping companionably on her breastbone:
“Her heart is very good and her mind is very pure … I like ‘thadi’ (fat), no?” he asks Shwetha affectionately, to which Shwetha agrees and say “Yes”.
He further adds:
“Don’t people with higher weight also have to live? It’s not only people with less weight who are beautiful men or women. Everyone has their own unique beauty. Real beauty lies on the inside, it’s not about fatness or being thin”
Talking about a very important topic of fat-shaming, particularly online, Sujith says that people post derogatory comments about Shwetha’s weight. Though Shweta interrupts him and mentions that she takes those comments in a positive way. While she may take it positively, people really should not post such awful comments, Sujith adds.
“Everyone has their own unique beauty, and real beauty doesn’t lie in external beauty, or fatness or thinness” he says.
In the era, where anyone finds it their birth-right to criticize people online, Sujith’s video is like a ray of hope when a husband comes forward to not only talk about the cruel and unfairly way society judged his wife but also about how obese people, in general, are put to mental harassment.
So, next time, when you tend to make fun of an obese person in your office or in your social gatherings, please rethink about how your behavior!