In a powerful Reddit thread, many women came forward to share how Indian Men refuse to stand up to their parents. Talking about how Indian Men use parents as an excuse to not stand up for their wives or girlfriends, this thread shows why we need our men to do better.
While sharing the details of her brother’s lack of courage to stand up to his parents, the Reddit user started a thread with the topic – ‘A lot of Indian guys do not have a backbone’. In this thread, she mentioned:
“I wouldn’t take it as far as perpetuating western stereotypes of Indian men, but too many give in to their parents’ demands when it comes to marriage specifically. My cousin brother (29) just broke up with his girlfriend of 3.5 yrs because his parents don’t like their relationship as the girl is from different caste (apparently lower caste). He just agreed to marry a woman his parents arranged for him. He knows that his parents are wrong and conservative freaks, and it was his fault that they broke up. Yet, he chooses not to stand up against his parents’ BS. He says he loves his parents and he’s so confused. I tried not to criticize him as he was pretty depressed. I’m pretty sure his story is not uncommon.”
Many Reddit users came forward to share their experiences with Indian Men that are worrisome:
“Same with my elder brother, about to be engaged to a girl arranged by parents because they did not approve of his SC/ST GF.” ~curlsandtwirls
“Indian parents are experts in emotional blackmail, and their “apple of their eye” sons fall for it too easily.” ~svmk1987
“I keep saying – in Indian culture, when you’ve been raised to obey basically all your life, it takes more than just balls to stand up to parents. You need a strong self-belief and a daring, and ability to take life as it comes – not everybody has immediate access to that if they aren’t that self-aware.”~GoRush87
“Not just that, it’s easier for people to judge when they have had supportive parents, it’s not so easy for people who have had their decisions been made and influenced by their parents because they have been groomed for decades by their parents in such a way.” ~gumbotitan
“While you are right,in many cases the kids are more to blame. The relationship isn’t worth the inconvenience to them and some of them even use the excuse of parental pressure to get out of it.” ~GoldPisseR
“I had a colleague from UP who was in relationship with a south Indian girl for 10 years. The guy broke with the girl and married a north Indian. The reason, his parents did not agree to him marrying to a south Indian because the guy would not get as much dowry if he marries a north Indian! This was narrated to us colleagues from the company by the guy himself. Keeping aside the stupid reasoning of his parents, when I mentioned that taking dowry is illegal, another guy(also from UP) from our group raised his voice and said “Mard hai isliye dahej milta hai”. And these guys were brandishing their engineering degrees. Waste of education I would say.” ~MeekaaSaangoo
“My sister’s ex-boyfriend broke up with my sister after a 4 year relationship because his parents didn’t approve of her. Why? Because we’re “AsSaMi” and of course “NE ki ladkiya toh aisi h waisi h” ~tadpolys
“When you get to your mid 20s, you start to hear about these things happening to your friends. You are underestimating how a couple of weeks of family drama can lead to problems between the couple and drain you into submission. Facing a life altering decision without the safety net of your family in a society so intertwined in itself is extremely hard. I’m surprised as many people actually manage to go ahead with it.”
“Good for the girl. She would have been married to a man-child.Good for the girl. She would have been married to a man-child.”
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